Hello!

So my baby and I have done co-sleeping every now and again and everything has been fine and when I usually put her in her own bed she’s okay. Here lately though she has been super clingy and not wanting to even be put down some times, and the last couple nights she’s been sleeping with me because every time I put her into her bed she starts crying and going into panic mode. I ended up Googling it and everything I read said it’s just a phase so I just let her sleep in my bed, I just don’t know what I should do. Do I let her continue to sleep with me? Is it really just a phase or is my baby getting to used to sleeping in my bed? Keep in mind this has only just started and we’ve only done co-sleeping every once in a while. But do I let her sleep in my bed or will it only get worse?


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  • This is why I’d never start to cosleep. It seems too difficult to break a pattern! All I can suggest is persistence with putting her back in her own bed.


  • It’s most likely a phase. Just keep doing what you’re doing, keep trying them in their own bed, you’ll get there eventually


  • Consistency is key. Babies and toddlers thrive off routine. Stick to the same routine and be persistent when it comes to your little one sleeping in their own bed. It will seem tough at the start but eventually they’ll catch the drift. Children are very smart and love to push boundaries. Be strong and consistent.


  • I had this issue, and when I say I tried EVERYTHING, I literally did!!! It was always easier to put my son into bed with us but our sleep ended up being horrible

    You need to persevere with baby staying in her cot, even it means having to resettle multiple times in the night/ or staying in her room for however long , after a few days it will get better, they are so intelligent and know they can go into your bed.

    Another thing I did was teaching my son to settle in his cot, I would hold his hand, pat his bum and shhhh at the same time. Within a few days his sleep improved.


  • I had similar issue when my baby used to cry whenever we shifted him to his crib during night. Please try to spend more pleasant time like playing or any other baby related chores which baby enjoys so that the baby gets used to her room more. Let her play for sometime in the same room before going to bed. They will be more familiar with the space as well as feel safe. Try decorating the room in someway that attracts the baby and some instrumental lullabies during night, if possible. Every baby is different and so will be their adjusting time. Don’t lose out on your patience and give it some more time. As a mother, I can totally understand and relate to your concern:)


  • It’s hard. It could be a phase. But the baby could get used to it. Just keep trying. When my twins didn’t wanna go to their own bed I was laying next to their cots and hold hands till they fall asleep. They never really sleep in our bed only when they are sick.


  • Could you put a bed or small mattress beside your bed ? Then you could gradually move that a couple of cm away


  • It’s so hard, every baby is different and you don’t want to make habits that are hard to break. I agree it’s likely just a phase so keep trying to put her down in her own bed. When she is particularly tired it may work and revert the habit back. Good luck.


  • Oh I wish I had an answer to help! My little one is 6.5 months, we co sleep and there’s no look of this changing yet.
    I keep reminding myself this won’t be forever and try to focus on the positives of it. Some nights are hard though!
    Wishing you luck with whatever you choose to do that works for your family!


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