Hello!

My son is about to start school. He is a bit excited, but is very shy. He wont know any kids there, as no one from his Kinder will be attending the same school.

Any tips on how to prepare him would be great! How do I prepare my son for school?


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  • I think he’ll be okay. A lot of the children in his class will be in the same boat and the teacher will most likely encourage them to get to know one another.


  • Keep encouraging him telling him about all the friends he will make and fun he will have and maybe just speak to the teacher about his shyness.


  • Just talk to him daily about it, about the sorts of things you think he’ll be doing. The sorts of things he’ll need. You’re already a step ahead, he’s excited about it, that’s always a bonus


  • I’m sure he won’t be the only one to know no one and the teachers are usually pretty good at involving all the kids in activities. It won’t take long for him to make friends. Make sure you don’t impress on him the fact he knows no one…


  • Think if you talk to the school they would be able to help ,you have to be strong also show no fear ,as the child will pick up on this & visits before starting .


  • Don’t dwell on shy! Let him pic out his school bag lunch box ect make it exciting be excited!


  • Play ‘school’ at home one day? As well as chatting about what to expect, talk about meeting new kids and how he can make friends /intetact. Chat about emotions too – he may feel nervous and that’s ok when we start something knew, he may feel super excited and have lots of energy.
    Kids make friends especially in kindy ad they’re all new :)


  • Hope the first days went well! Kids are so amazingly resilient =)


  • get him to practise how he wold introduce himself and he can talk about things that he likes. don’t worry too much, he will adapt quickly


  • My son was in the same situation last year. The advice I’d give is to talk to him about what school might be like, read stories about it and talk about any concerns he might have. On the actual first day go to class with him if you can and make sure he knows the teacher is there to help him and comfort him should he need it. Also make sure he knows where the toilets are before you leave. As it can be very busy and overwhelming on the first day see if you can encourage him to sit and take part in an activity. See if he can introduce himself to the other children at that activity and let him know that you will be leaving shortly. When you feel comfortable to do so let your son know you are leaving and what time you’ll be back to pick him up. Encourage him to ask the teacher for anything he needs and to get to know the other children. As for yourself, it’s okay to feel worried and stressed but generally speaking kids are so much more friendly and adaptable then us adults. I’m sure by the end of the day he’ll be telling you about all his new friends.
    I know I had a bit of a cry when I left my son at school the first day and had the same concerns as you have. I hope it all goes well, Good luck ☺


  • Also; read books with him on going to school/first day at school.


  • Is there a school site you can join, maybe you can ask on that site for people in your sons class, let the teacher know when you arrive in the morning and also check when you pick him up if he had a good day….he will make friends kids are great at that age.


  • Try not to worry; he should make friends. Chat to his teacher too!


  • Just make sure his teacher knows. My son is shy also and starting kindy and he is very nervous about it. I’m going to stay for awhile on the first day to ease him in.


  • i’m glad he is excited, make sure you tell him to be friendly and say hello to everyone and he will surely make friends also talk to his teacher the first day about him being shy and ask for updates on if he is making friends but dont stress little ones make friends super fast.


  • Our son has just finished prep and at the beginning he didn’t know anyone either but as it turned out I was the only one to worry! He finished the year with a couple of little friends. And that is all he needs to feel confident to start Year 1. I must admit that it doesn’t get easier to send your little man or lady to school for the first time. He is our 4th and all the same worries came flooding back but yet again our kids showed us that this stage of their lives may be scary but they are ok and will start to find their own way in the world.


  • I personally think that every thing will be fine yes your son may be shy but I must admit my son was also very shy if any thing try to be positive and include your child. you can make it easy by telling him all the fun things we will be doing and all the new friends he will be making yes it takes time but i’m sure he’ll make good friends and just love it. All the best


  • There will be lots of other little ones who don’t know each other, don’t worry about that, the first weeks of school are all about getting to know others and settling into routines. Don’t worry and don’t let your child see you worried! The best thing you can do is help your child be familiar…drive past your school and say positive things, look there’s te play ground, your classroom etc. try not to make a big deal of it. Enjoy buying new things, lunch boxes, bags etc. make sure your child wears his new school shoes for an hour or so around the house for a few days, to wear them in. Other than that, he will be fine, school is a great place. He made it though kinder, so let him continue this next journey. The teacher is there to help you, make an appointment if you are concerned, but let it go a week or two if you can. Good luck!


  • Thank you! :-)


  • My daughter didn’t know anyone either when she went to school. Speak with him about how he feels about it. It’s nerve racking for mums when this whole school thing comes about but you’ve got to keep speaking with him and be as active as you’re able to be to support him through this new environment.


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