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My husband and I have two little ones and always said we just wanted two kids. We have been very fortunate to have healthy pregnancy/birth/kids but I am not sure I’m done having kids yet…How do you know you’re done?


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  • When I had two kids I wasn’t sure I was done. We had a 3rd and I was like yep, this is good now we are done. Then we had a surprise baby and honestly she is perfect and totally completes our family. If you’re not sure then you’re probably not done ????????????


  • I have 4 children and know that I’m done now. I’m also in my early 40’s and had fairly traumatic pregnancies and births, so not sure I could put myself through that again. After my third, I still had a really strong desire for more and knew I wasn’t done. I’m very content after my 4th, and if I was younger, who knows….but I am content and don’t feel the overwhelming feeling that I’m not done that I did after my third.


  • I don’t think I would have ever been done. I love babies and I love my children very much. They have become beautiful adults. In the end, it was my husband who decided and had the snip. He only ever wanted two children. I always thought I would want at least six. We have four.


  • When I had my third I just felt complete inside ????


  • When I had my third I just felt complete inside ????


  • I have 4 kids and now I’m done. I knew I was done after my last because I just feel complete now and have no urge to have another like I did with my other kids.


  • I always wanted lots of kids. I have 3 boys now through c sections so its recommended for me to not have anymore though, i feel that am not ready yet. I dont want to let go of my 2.month old’s clothes that he has outgrown or anything else for thst matter. But my husband only wanted 2 and now we have 3 but he wants no more as we are a single income family and he bears that burden. I have decided to stop but i want a girl so much that its very difficult for me to let it go ..still convinciing myself that this is it. So sometimes your heart will tell you and sometimes the circumstances.


  • So many factors have to be taken into account with this question and of course you and your husband have to be in agreement with how many children you want and can afford to have as well.
    This question has to be answered with your heart and also your head – is maybe that you have 2 of the same sex and would dearly like one of the other? Of course, you have to be careful here, too. I can still remember the hurt that was palpable from the mother who had just given birth to her 6th little girl when her husband desperately wanted a son when I was in hospital having my second child. One cannot change what is to be at times.


  • I think if you are questioning whether you are done – you’re not done. It sounds cliche but you will know when you are done.
    I always wanted 2 kids. I had my first 4 years ago and when baby 1 was three we decided it was time for baby 2. I was thrilled when I found out I was pregnant with our second baby. Except baby 2 turned into baby 2 and 3 (twins). I was even more excited.
    I have gone from always thinking I wanted 2 kids. To now having 3 kids. And in my gut I feel like I want more.


  • you don’t know life just keeps going round different corners


  • I always wanted to 3 or more kids but after my second I decided that was it. I think you know in yourself when you are done and nobody can make that choice for you.


  • You will know as you get over having nappies and you don’t have the patience anymore and you want to get rid of all the baby stuff.


  • I think it’s just a feeling you get, you know when you know.


  • For me, I had no real choice for medical reasons. I was told i was done. But I guess to some extent it just comes down to – do you feel like there’s still a space in your family that should be filled? Or do you feel that it’scomplete?


  • My husband and I always said we wanted two children, but after our first we both felt one was enough for us and we have never regretted our decision. I guess we both just felt that one was enough.


  • I dont really know if i can help but I thought i was done at 1. Then i met my current partner and my thoughts on not having any more kids changed. He has always wanted a few kids, however i am in the same boat and not sure if i want more, or am happy with our current family.


  • I honestly thought I was done at 3…. but apparently not…. now I KNOW I’m done at 4….. haha


  • A number of things- sometimes looking at the finances is enough to realise- can you afford another? I found being pregnant while having a toddler and then the second labour being a hard one, was enough to make me say I’m done.


  • Maybe a chat with your husband would help. I’ve wanted to have more kids but have been finding it hard to fall pregnant!


  • Depends on many factors mentioned below. You two decide, but the final verdict will be definitely you. Your body you do.


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