Hello!

I’ve got a 22 month old. Who will fight going to sleep for hours. He’s always been like this. We’ve been to sleep school. We have a great and consistent bedtime routine but his resistance drives me mental. He insists I have to be there and pretend screams for hours of need be if I’m not there. Is this normal? What do you do to get your kids to SLEEP!!!!


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  • I do hope you can get this sorted fairly easily with some of the tips being given here. It is such a frustrating time, and I was lucky as reading a book with my children in a very monotone voice, mind you, no expressions of happiness, grumpiness or sounding like the ogre or the good fairy, made mine fall off to sleep in no time flat. Do be careful of lying next to your toddler to read as a friend of mine was still doing this when the child was 12 and it took a couple of hours before their child would fall asleep. Made it so hard for so long!


  • t’s totally normal (though completely frustrating!). At this age, separation anxiety can still be a thing, so maybe a gradual approach could help—like sitting by the door instead of right next to him and slowly increasing the distance over time. Some parents swear by a super calm but firm approach, like saying, “It’s sleep time now,” and checking in at set intervals if he’s upset. White noise, a lovey, or even a “special bedtime pass” (where he gets one extra check-in and then it’s done) might also help.


  • Oh goodness, this must get tiring. My toddler has had some seperation anxiety with bed time, and what has helped us has been keeping a routine at night. We have a big play before dinner, a bath, a small play while getting dressed, read a few books together, and some cuddles with a sound machine until he starts getting drowsy. Initially he hated being put to bed awake, but within a few days be was self soothing. It made a huge difference for me, I know it can be so exhausting. I hope you find something that helps.


  • My boys were swaddled from an early age and even as toddlers it was the way to get them to sleep with a little back rub. I wish you all the best, I think it often comes down to finding the right routine for your little one and changing it as they change!


  • Does he use a dummy? Sometimes that can help soothe him and once he’s asleep you can gently pull it out.otherwise you can try putting him in a pram and pushing it back and forth continuously that might help him fall asleep with the motion also add a bit of lullaby music in the background.I know it’s hard but it will eventually pass. Goodluck!


  • Will he go to sleep if you are there? Mine always wanted me there to fall asleep with as well. Sometimes it’s just easier to lie with them instead of fighting it. They’re only little for such a short time. I know people say it’s a bad habit to get into but whatever works I say 🙂


  • I feel for you It sounds like he has a very determined nature. Just know that this WILL pass in time. Keep up your routine and try to leave the room if you can. It can be so exhausting and draining.
    Have you tried white noise in the background. Every child is so different.


  • Aw bless, this sounds tiring and hard.
    Yes, it’s fairly common for a 22-month old to not fall asleep independently and start screaming, often due to separation anxiety, a developmental stage where toddlers struggle with being left alone, especially at bedtime; this can manifest as crying and protesting when parents leave the room


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