Sleep - seems so trival but what would you do/say ?

So the nextdoor neighbour has got some LOUD cars (2 actually), with after market exhausts that sound like teenagers revving their P-plate cars round and round when it’s just sitting idle in the garage. He likes to idle it for a few minutes before driving off. We live at the end of a dirt road, right next to him, with 600m to the other nearest neighbour up the road. We moved here to get away from the noise of traffic. Recently the loud annoying cars have been coming and going at very peculiar hours … spanning midnight to 4am, sometimes 6am, sometimes just after you’ve fallen asleep at 10pm. It’s worse than having a newborn! And at almost 60 years of age, with health issues mounting, and multiple doctors saying you need to sleep well because of it, I’m at a loss for what to do when the neighbour decides to go out at say 2am, or maybe a girlfriend arrives in his other noisy car at 4:45am just before the 6am alarm for hubby. What can you do? What can you say if you bring it up with them? It’s so bad, and the tones so low and vibrating, that my deaf in one ear husband can hear it in the most quiet part of the house away from all the windows. Help!!

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- - Frankiielot said
  - 20 May 2023
    9:27 am
Wow, that’s just rude!
I think you should definitely bring it up but in a nice way. I don’t get people like that who just have no regard for anyone else.
- - mom466291 said
  - 13 May 2023
    5:49 am
Sounds horrible. Hopefully you can start the conversation
- - mom64645 said
  - 11 May 2023
    3:39 pm
I think gently start the conversation if you feel comfortable. How you’ve come across in this question shows you’re quite reasonable and well mannered about it. You can even be honest and say you’re a bit uncomfortable/embarrassed/whatever bringing it up but that you’re finding the car noise a bit much through the night, is there anything he can do.
Are they renting or do they own the property? If own, you want to think long term that this is someone you may have to deal with for years to come so approach with the long goal of being neighbours in mind. If you get no luck from a polite request, you could try reaching out to your council regarding the technical noise level to see how they can support the issue. If it’s over a certain level there may be things you can do.
- - TraceyGail said
  - 09 May 2023
    11:51 am
This is a hard one. I think you’re going to have to try very politely to bring it up with them and not let it escalate into an argument. All you can do is ask. I hope it goes well.
- - RA1234756 said
  - 09 May 2023
    10:56 am
That is so horrible! I wish you the best of luck.
- - Ellen said
  - 09 May 2023
    7:50 am
Aw I can understand this is very annoying. I would probably first look what I could do myself. Improve insulation in your house, close doors and windows, buy good earplugs
- - meedee said
  - 08 May 2023
    10:50 am
Oh you poor thing. I guess it depends on how your relationship is with the neighbour. If you are on good terms you could mention it but the reality of it is if he has older cars then they do need to idle a little before driving off. This is not required with newer cars. Its a tough one because if you mention anything and you dont really get on it could just make matters worse.