My husband and I have been invited to a wedding where the couple have asked for a donation to their honeymoon as a wedding gift. What is the socially acceptable amount to give?

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  • The age old rule was that you gave enough to cover your meals. I think that translates to $50 per person. We quite often give more then that but that would be the minimum I would go. Having said that we had a wishing well when we got married as we’d lived together for 8 years and had most of what we needed. We had some very generous guests and we had some not so generous couples who gave us $50 for the both of them, and other guests who came for the meal & driniks and didn’t give us anything, lol. It just depends on your budget and what you can afford to give

  • In my opinion it totally depends on how close you are and how well off you are yourself. I would be happy to give $50 when I’m not that close

  • i recently went to two weddings and gave $100 to wishing well each time. i thought that was fair as the weddings cost me a small fortune. my kids were in one and i was bridesmaid in another. outfits/accomodation etc. it all added up.

  • I think this is a loaded question. Since you are a bridesmaid, theres also other stuff in play.
    If the bride has paid for your dress/shoes/jewellry etc then I would suggest $100-$200.
    If she hasn’t paid for any of that, then lower on the scale ($50-$100). If you had to buy your dress/shoes and it was like $500+ then I would say on the lower end.

  • This is so hard because you can’t do it anonymously so the bride and groom will know how cheap or generous you’ve been. It also depends on how well you know the couple of if you’re related. And how much you like them

  • I think $100 per person so $200 for the both of you. I dont think you need to give more because you are the bridesmaid. If that is out of your budget then just give what you can.

  • We would usually say $100 per person that is going

  • Thanks for all of your answers. I failed to mention that I am a bridesmaid. Would you now recommend $100-150?

  • We appreciated and used wishing well money wisely on setting up our life together.
    Wishing well money used wisely is a tremendous gift from family and friends.

  • It depends how close you are but I say at least cover what it costs to have you there. If it’s $100 a head then for the two of you $200 minimum.

  • I agree with the other posters that it all depends on how close you are to the couple. A gift between $50-100 is reasonable.

  • I guess it depends on how close you are with them. I would say anywhere between $50 to $150. Definitely no less then $50 though. My cousin (who I was close with at the time) gave me $20 for a wedding gift, and she is well off so I wasn’t impressed!

  • The wonderful mom members have delivered beautifully once more and I tend too agree with them.

  • At a minimum, I would say the amount it has cost the couple to have you there as guests. For an average wedding that is usually about $50 per person.

  • Depending on how close you are to the couple, I think $50-100 is more than acceptable.

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