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I have two disabled sons, a husband with anxiety, and health issues. We keep getting sick, called into hospital, or someone needs surgery. We are persecuted for our religion, and life just keeps getting worse. Why can’t we get a break?


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  • I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through so much. It sounds like you’re carrying an immense load, and it’s no wonder you’re feeling overwhelmed. Balancing the needs of two disabled children, supporting a husband with his own challenges, and dealing with health setbacks—especially with the added layer of religious prejudice—would be exhausting for anyone.

    You’re incredibly strong to keep going, even when it feels like life won’t give you a break. Sometimes it helps to reach out for support from others who understand similar struggles, whether that’s through support groups, online communities, or even local organizations that can offer some relief or resources. And please remember, it’s okay to take even the smallest moments for yourself to recharge. You deserve it, and you’re doing an amazing job in circumstances most people wouldn’t begin to understand.


  • Who and how are you persecuted for your religion? I’d be reaching out, firstly a chat with your GP for guidance and help


  • Have you contacted Carer’s Australia (or Carers your state) to ask about respite? They can be incredibly helpful.


  • That’s terrible! Do you have friends who can help? Have you tried reaching out to the various organisations who can provide Government funded assistance? I hope things get better. You mentioned you’re religious – could people in your church organisation help you?


  • Yes I feel for you and your family


  • I am interested in what religion you follow? Persecution on religious grounds is mostly unheard of these days, unless it’s an extreme religion


  • I’m truly sorry to hear about the challenges you and your family are facing. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of stress and hardship. Sometimes life can be incredibly tough, and it’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. It might be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a support group who can offer understanding and assistance during difficult times. Additionally, consider reaching out to mental health professionals who can provide coping strategies and resources to help you navigate these challenges. You’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help.


  • That’s a lot for you to be dealing with and totally understandable why you’re feeling overwhelmed. Sending you hugs. Your GP would be the best person to start with. The hospital has Social Workers you can talk to. Maybe your Church, Community or Cultural Centre has services that can help. i hope you find the help that you need.


  • I hope that you are able to have some respite, even for just a few hours. It sounds like things are really making you feel overwhelmed. If your sons have NDIS funding, perhaps that could pay for a carer for a few hours?


  • I know exactly how you feel. And it is TOUGH. Try getting in touch with Carer’s Australia (or Carer’s for your state) – they can help you access support and respite.


  • It sounds really overwhelming. I’m sorry you are being persecuted for your beliefs. Agree with other posters that additional support is needed. Reach out to your networks, including those from your faith. Hope things get better for you


  • You write you guys are persucuted for your religion, which kept me thinking. When you’re truly persecuted for your religion you could consider to report this
    https://www.ag.gov.au/rights-and-protections/human-rights-and-anti-discrimination/religious-discrimination


  • Maybe reach out for support and advice from professional services. A GP should be able to provide referrals and information on support and services.


  • Sounds like you need a break indeed.
    Do you have NDIS funding for your 2 disabled sons ? Any reviews soon ? You can request a review and make sure to write a carers impoact statement.

    Alternatively you could reach out to Crers Gateway:
    https://www.carergateway.gov.au/services-and-support

    Also you mention that you’re religious. Did you reach out for help at your church ?


  • It sounds like you need some respite care, a break, so you can get your head in the right place. Speak to your Doctor about which avenues you can go down to get this. Be open with him. You need to be well to be able to cope with the stress. Hopefully things will get better, health wise. Reach out to family or your church for more support.


  • Perhaps it is that you talk about your religion. Surely that should be a private thing in your household.


  • Some of the best advice I’ve ever received is… successful people don’t talk about what held them back.

    We’re all faced with challenges, but with the right mindset, planning and persistence, we’re in charge of what our future looks like.


  • I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. Can you see a GP and see if they can put you on a care plan to obtain more assistance or help or do you work for a company that offers EAP. Good luck and I hope things improve for you soon.


  • Do you get any additional help or respite for your sons? Might be worth looking into.


  • I hope you and your family can catch a break and have some joy. If you haven’t already, getting a mental health check and access to some therapy sessions from the GP might help, if only to just give you an outlet to express your feelings.


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