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My daughter attends a community kindy part of the week that she loves. The other part of the week she attends a daycare kindy that works with my work hours. We are struggling to afford to send her to both. The daycare based kindy is necessary as without this I cannot work (the other kindy is the wrong days and shorter hours). My daughter adores the community kindy and dislikes the daycare kindy. I have immense guilt at the thought of cancelling the kindy she loves but we are really struggling with the cost. What would other parents do? Do you think we are horrible if we cancel her community kindy and only send her to the daycare one?



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  • If it’s her last year of kindy/4 year old, I’d be inclined to try everything to keep her in there to finish off the year with her friends before she starts at school next year.
    If she’s got another year of kindy left, then I’d change her to save the money and give her a good year next year.


  • Life’s getting so expensive so do what you have to do.

    Could she be put on the waitlist for those days for 2023?


  • It’s tough I know and when the tears and sadness hit I know it will really tug at your heart strings and your sense of guilt. But life is tough and you need to get through too. Sometimes these decisions have to be made. Whilst we want our kids to smile and laugh, it’s also important for them to build resilience and know things don’t always go the way they want.


  • No, I don’t think you’re horrible for having to consider affordability, living costs are a huge worry for many these days. It’s a hard thing to do though, I wish you luck with it


  • This is something that children will need to learn throughout life. That people, things and places may and will change. Like with any change, it may be hard at first, but other things will take place and become the new normal.


  • my kids were only in daycare to allow me to work, so I would probably go with what worked best for the family. It is hard though when you see your kids happy to have to change things up.


  • I think you’ll have to think about the money this time as then you’ll be struggling.
    She might change attitudes once she’s there for longer periods.


  • She will be okay, they always are.


  • When something is financially not possible, it’s simply not possible and you don’t have to feel bad about it. Look what is possible within your budget and accept it


  • You need to do what is right for you and your finances. My eldest didn’t want to leave her old school and move over to her brother’s school. But his school was the better out of the two and her school didn’t treat him right in the handful of weeks he was there! Even though the schools were only a few minutes apart, it really added to the day a LOT! She eventually had to accept that she was moving schools, and has made some great friends. She still gets to see some of her friends from her old school too! Sorry to say, but it’s not always about making our children happy! I tried it and it damn near left me exhausted and feeling dead inside. Do what you think it right not what she wants. Give her some time to get used to the idea and by all meals discuss it with her. It would be horrid if it was a sudden change with no explanation, so don’t keep her in the dark. But let her know it IS happening.


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