Short answer is NO. The new mum is NTA. Labour is full on and he cannot be supportive then leave. What is something had gone wrong due to stress? The Fad needs to step up, apologise and take care of his wife abs baby!

Wow that poor lady, the husband was being very selfish in a very difficult time for her

Seriously this guy needs to grow up , and his mum needs to realise she is not helping.

I’d have kicked him out too.

There is a life time ahead of being a family unit and the focus of here and now and the future is surely key to happiness. The past cannot be changed and moving forward is important.

I think the sad thing is the misunderstanding between the couple

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 26 Aug 2022 , 6:35 am

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  It is so unfortunate at such an incredible time.

No, you are not the a-hole. Your husband is. And, the nurse was concerned about your and your baby’s wellbeing and your husband was not supportive. So, if I were the nurse, I would have kicked him out also, because he wasn’t helpful to you at all. As for your MIL, well naturally she’s going to side with her baby boy. How dare she. If it were my son I would have told him to get his act together and that he should have placed his attention on you and the birth of your baby daughter. Don’t allow him or your MIL make you feel as though you did the wrong thing, because you didn’t. I applaud the nurse for taking care of you in your labour.

The father is the a**hole for not being supportive at the one time you needed him most. His mother sounds like a piece of work also. Call him out, tell him exactly what he did and how it made you feel and say your only regret is not kicking him out sooner.

Once in a lifetime moment though…. Sad he missed out, but he wasn’t being very supportive

The father put himself in this position due to his behaviour. Obviously from the start he just didn’t care .

He certainly made it difficult for his wife and it’s his fault he was kicked out. He needs to grow up now he has a daughter to be a role model for.

It seams that this guy is a bit of a jerk. If he want to be there to bond with his child, he should have put his damn phone away and be there. And the mother in law should shut up, she isn’t a bad wife and her son needs to grow up.

look there are two sides to the story but surely this wasnt a shock to the hubby

Your husband sounds a bit immature to me. He’s supposed to be your support person but it sounds like he was anything but. He didn’t need to leave the hospital and could have come back in, so it’s on him and if he was really upset about missing a bonding moment – he should have visited at the first opportunity rather than staying away nursing his own wounded pride..

He got kicked out of the room. He is the one that left the hospital. His fault.

The husband sound rather immature, having his needs met before his wife who’s in labour. Actually it’s not the wife kicking her husband out, but the nurse. It it might be good in situations like that the nurse clearly communications that she’s the one kicking him out based on medical reasons and his lack of ability to support his wife, being a source of distraction and disruption

Wow, I would have cut him tbh. He sounds like he still wants to live the best of both worlds – the single life with his “bros” but also have someone to come home to at the end of the day so he’s not alone. No thanks!!!
Plus, I wouldn’t be able to stand having a mother in law like that, seriously so up herself and insensitive!!!

I am constantly surprised at how some men behave. He’s now choosing to miss other bonding moments with his daughter.

He doesn’t seem very supportive