Mmmm surely it’s fake. If he is this inconsiderate she’s probably better off leaving now.

The husband clearly has little understanding. I would suggest when the inlaw’s want to come over the come with the platter and help

I had a similar experience with my 3 daughters father when my second born daughter was 5 days old. He invited his friend and partner over who had a child the same age as our first daughter, 3 years old. I had no choice in the matter, I was made to cook a roast dinner, look after our eldest daughter, plus supervise the visitors daughter as well as look after our newborn. He did nothing, neither did the visitors. I remember sitting down on the floor in tears after scrubbing red icy pole off the floor that the 3 year olds had spilt. Plus it was my birthday as well!
So in this scenario I commend the woman for standing up for herself, her husband sounds old fashioned, narcissistic and controlling. Either he cooks or the inlaws bring dinner!

Why can’t he do the roast and she can just sit in the kitchen with their baby and supervise. Better yet, if his parents are coming around so soon after bub is born, they can help him to make the roast and serve it up too. I hope this wasn’t a true situation.

They could do it together.
Or even better his parents could bring the meal and some extras for the freezer

Thats disgusting. How rude and unsupportive of the new dad

Just Wow! I don’t have any more words than that.

This tide of toxic masculinity seems to be increasing, not improving. Especially if the recent University of NSW research is anything to go by! We need men to take strong stands on inappropriate language and behaviour.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 07 Mar 2024 , 6:13 am

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  I agree; standards need to be lifted.

This has to be a joke? For clicks right? Otherwise run for the hills girl! If he expects a roast two days after giving birth then goodluck with the rest of your life

I hope this isn’t a joke because WTAF!? I know there are some people out there who would indeed think along these lines and that in itself is a bullsh*t way of thinking. If this exchange is genuine then it’s tone and undertones are probably vicious due to sleep deprivation and hormones. If it is genuine I hope the male parent is shamed because F YOU

I’m guessing this is a set up? why else was it filmed? But the video isn’t there now anyway. Regardless if the parents are coming round 2 days after shes given birth they should be bringing dinner ????????

Give the girl a break….. No new mother should have to cook nor clean until she is ready. Everybody”s body is different and some recover quicker than others. The Inlaws should offer to cook for them.

I remember my brother in law, expecting his wife to cook/clean/entertain weeks and months giving birth, juggling a baby & 2 toddlers while he sat there talking, eating and drinking. No offer to help. Barking orders, telling her what to do. Even my Mother in law was doing the same to her. Lucky my fiancé (his brother) and myself stepped in, and helped. Even though we had a baby ourselves. We were disgusted that a husband could be like that. Being a parent is team work. So in this situation of giving birth two days ago and hubby expects you to cook, well tell him he can learn to cook or tell the folks to bring a roast. I would be packing my bags. Fair enough he is tired and becoming a parent is overwhelming.. possibly he may have post natal depression too. But at the end of the day, expectations like that is just simply wrong and degrading!

If this video is true the dad certainly lacks understanding. But not all dad’s are understanding may need some patient education.

Having a baby is a 2 way street and it does sound like she had an easy birth. Things do need to keep carrying on after birth and you don’t need to rest all the time. If her partner is around helping it stands to reason that they could both pitch in together. A roast is about the easiest thing you can cook because all you need to do is prepare a few things (half hour tops) and then put it in the oven to check every so often. However, if she doesn’t feel up to company so soon, that would be understandable.

Can’t see the video so can’t really comment but the fact that it was videoed in the first place seems set up. The obvious answer is to tell him no.

Real or fake it is deplorable behaviour and shines the light on women standing firm and asserting themselves. Never ever take this type of disrespect and have high standards in a partner.

I just can’t believe this is true. It must be another fake video!

The patriarchy has a lot to answer for

OMG, personally, I say RUN. That behaviour will never change., if anything it will most probably, sadly,, get worse
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