Your baby shower should be about you and if you’d specifically asked for your husband not to cook and requested simple finger foods that’s what you should have received. I can totally understand why you were upset and why you wouldn’t want to attend. Having said that you shouldn’t have to miss out on your own baby shower and not going is probably not fair on your aunt if she’s organised everything. Maybe just order pizza and grab a few platters from the supermarket………………and I definitely wouldn’t be letting your mum organise anything in future…

a persons wishes should always be respected

Well she clearly communicated it, so it would have been good if that was respected. However to pull the pin and no longer attend the baby shower is somewhat of a strong reaction. She could have suggested to her mum to cook herself or arrange different people to help her instead.

Your wishes should always be respected.

Definitely not in the wrong. It is her baby shower and her own expectations should have been respected. And what pregnant women wants to be up at 7am to cook through all the way till 12pm?!?!?!

If the mum does this a lot, why would the baby shower be any different? Tell her to freeze the food or cook it herself, I would still go to the shower as the guests probably wonder why youre not there and where the food is. But I feel like this needs several more conversation with the mum about boundaries, what will she be like when bub arrives and youre both exhausted?!

You are obsessed with working on your own but this is not correct! It’s a special day you can bring food from outside!!

I would have still attended the baby shower but ordered pizzas etc. like the original plan. Bugger the food etc. her mum brought. She didn’t listen.

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  • • Ellen replied
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  Yes I agree with you. By not attending it might become a lifelong point of hurt

She just wanted to relax… let her!

While I would have still attended my baby shower I would have told my Mum that hubby and I were not helping with cooking anything. Then I would have ducked out to the supermarket and picked up a bunch of finger foods to make do.

Geez, what is wrong with people.
Seriously, who wants to be cooking for their own events, it’s hard enough organising it all especially when you’re expecting!!!!!
Kids parties are different but I think her mum went too far.

Sometimes you have to draw a line… I’d definitely have refused to cook, but I might still have attended after calling out for pizza.

I’d be peeved too. It’s a hard call but so frustrating when they won’t listen. I think I would have stayed for the shower and just sent someone out for dips and bikkies, telling Mum to freeze it all or cook it herself.