Along with my other comment below; it is always a very good idea in this situation to possibly look at any possible medical issues. There can sometimes be issues with health and wellbeing after having a baby that do need professional support for the wellbeing of everybody in the family.

It very much sounds like she may have post-natal depression & she’s doing the preverbial check out. It’s hard on both parents when it grabs ahold of mumma, & it’s easy to miss it, or call it laziness. Your well meaning interference just needs a bit better direction & better chosen words.

I agree with the previous comments here. I think this sister had good intentions and she was brought into this situation by her brother, but it is best not to interfere in someone else’s relationship because it is between the husband and wife to work out what is going on and how to move forward.

It definitely crossed a line in my opinion. As having been there myself, there were days and days where i just felt exhausted. What she probably doesnt see behind closed doors is a tired mum who was constantly up all night or with broken sleep, so being tired became 24/7. She could also have PND.

Yeah, actually, I do think you were in the wrong. Checking if she was ok was all right, and a good start. But rather than being brutally critical, why not ask her if she needs help? Someone who is suffering from, say, post natal depression may not be able to recognise it or articulate it straight out. Spend some time with her, try to get a sense of what’s going on.

I think it was inappropriate to say. This is between the husband and wife and if he is having an issue then it’s for him and his wife to discuss.
I know for a fact that being a stay at home mum is draining and repetitive, you don’t get to ‘go home’ at the end of your shift and my husband worked long hours aswell but he always agreed that being home with kids was way harder than going to work. It’s not a comparison because you can’t compare the two but I always beleive communication between partners is number one priority

The baby is 5 months old. Unless there is health issues, etc or other extenuating circumstances, there is no reason why this woman should be being so lazy. I know it can be difficult to get things done sometimes, but you make a schedule for yourself. I have raised 2 kids and my housework was always pretty much under control while I was staying at home. You just do a little each day and the husband can help with a few things when he is home. But it shouldn’t be all left to him. He should get quality time with the bub.

I think this woman had good intentions. Her brother called her sharing that he was losing it so this woman went over to help, which on itself is a positive act. However her brother didn’t ask her to confront or speak to his wife and this is probably something the brother has to talk about with his wife himself. The most she could have done upon hearing from her sister in law that she is so exhausted is suggesting she could visit the GP and ask for her bloods to be done.

That is a tricky situation because the brother did reach out to his sister. However; it is not ok to to make a comment that has clearly inflamed the situation. Offering strategies and ideas of how to manage a newborn, a household and the sharing of responsibilities can be done in a way that keeps everyone on side.