A baby shower guest says she feels under pressure, after being invited to a baby shower, which includes a fee for a private room, on top of the cost of afternoon tea and a gift.

The woman explained that she’s been invited to the afternoon tea baby shower, which costs $80 per person. While she says she has no problem paying that amount, a message has been put in a private group, explaining that the cost of hiring a private room is a further $60 per person.

“This is in a nice hotel and I can’t even see why we need a private room as there is only a very small number going,” the woman detailed.

“Then another message appeared in the group to say mum-to-be doesn’t have a gift list so bring a gift of your choosing and there will be a table set up for the gifts.

“I’ve only ever been to a couple of get togethers that were like a baby shower without all the grabbiness. An enjoyable afternoon with some close friends, tea and cake.”

She says the baby shower is being organised by the expecting mum’s three best friends, with some guests also needing to book flights for the event.

“The mum-to-be is also getting married later in the year so there will be a hen party and wedding and more flights etc to pay for. I honestly can’t afford all this. And I suspect a few others are the same as only one person has replied to the message stating the costs and asking for payment.

“I’m so fond of mum-to-be and do want to celebrate with her and get a small gift but feel under such pressure now and also worry that these friends will bring big expensive gifts and I will look miserable. I don’t think mum to be has any involvement in any of the planning and I think she would hate people to feel under pressure.

“Am I being unreasonable?”

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