One can only do what one can do – her little man will love her for being his mum, not for breastfeeding him while she was so sick that her milk wasn’t as good as it should have been. She must look at the big picture, get well and get on with her life and be the person that Barry Hall fell in love with so she ensures her little man has a mum and dad to love and look up to.

Miller will now probably benefit more from formula than picking up on the body language of an exhausted, stressed and upset Mum as would any baby in the same or similar situation.

Life is much busier with children – makes you wonder what you did with your time before children! But, I would not have it any other way! 🙂

I dislike how Mum’s who can’t or don’t want to breastfeed get made out to be terrible mothers. It’s doesn’t make you a bad Mother if you don’t breastfeed. Do what is right for you and you’re child will reap the benefits.

I don’t have a problem with her breastfeed/formula feed decision.

Breast feeding is good – but it doesn’t work for everyone.

If you can’t or won’t breast feed that is your decision to make. No one should ever feel the need to explain their personal decisions especially online to millions of strangers.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 28 Dec 2017 , 7:09 am

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  I whole heartedly agree – it does not need to be judged.

Mothers these days are so hard on themselves. It’s not possible to have a baby and keep life going as it had before. There are changes and compromises you have to do. I think the sooner we realise that we’re not able to do EVERYTHING then the happier we are. Delegate tasks, ask for help, catch up with the neighbours and ask them to hold the baby for a bit. Be kind to yourself.

no one should be judging her for not breastfeeding, she tried it and it doesn’t work for them. It didn’t work for me and my first daughter, but it did for my second daughter. I would much prefer knowing that my child is being fed and loved rather than dealing with all the stress, anxiety, lack of self-care that mum’s can put on themselves and each other.

She is very brave I think to be raw and honest about her feelings and situation – everyone is different, we are not the same, we all have something – I commend her for speaking out and letting others know they are human too if they are feeling the same things

She wasn’t forced. But she shouldn’t feel so guilty for wanting to stop that she has yo tell herself and the world thst she was forced either. Breastfeeding can be extremely hard in the best of circumstances, for women who are really independent and need their own space it can be absolutely awful. But you should be able to own your decision to stop and it just be ok and not make excuses about being forced. It is ok to stop for any reason.

I agree, we’re never forced, it’s a decision. We might feel lead to a decision by the circumstances and our willpower or the lack of it, our energy or the lack of it, etc. but it is a decision.

she wasn’t forced at all, she wanted to stop so she did, more power to her, you needed your body and mind back and found a way to do it but that was not forced

Very brave of her to admit she had problems. It looks like this solution works well for her.