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Ok my 8 week old Angel had tummy issues early on. Reflux and wind which she dosnt seem to have too much trouble now. Some but not bad. She only sleeps on me at night and wants the boob to fall asleep. She could be asleep 10 minutes and then searches for it again. She will literally suck sleep suck sleep for hours. Its 10pm now and she has been at this since 7.30. If she does finally stop and is fast asleep. If i lay her down she stirs instantly. Ive tried heating her bed… will she grow out of this? Im worried im doing the wrong thing. Im just giving her what she needs.

Posted by Meex_spali, 3rd April 2019

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  • First of all I think there is no right or wrong here, you’re giving what your baby needs so you don’t do the wrong thing and don’t let anybody tell you that or make you feel like that.
    There are many elements to responsive parenting but one of the central aspects within this relationship is the importance of responsive feeding. Responding to a baby’s feeding cues (both of hunger and satiation), whether they are breast or bottle fed is an important step to helping a baby develop not only a secure attachment relationship, but in establishing longer term positive eating behaviours. Responsive feeding takes advantage of a young baby’s natural ability to regulate their intake of calories – something that can disappear when a baby gets older3. Feeding when they are hungry and being able to stop when they are full helps them to retain this ability4.

  • Some babies with bad reflux seem to settle with their stomach against you for warmth. They don’t get benefit from laying on their backs. Not all are helped with their back being rubbed for a few minutes either. When baby is definitely asleep and will stay warm you should be able to put baby in bassinet or cot. Raising the head of the bassinet or cot is recommended by many medical professionals. They same applies to children or adults with reflux – you raise the head of the bed.

  • She’s just searching for comfort. I’m sure she will grow out of it. Fingers crossed it doesn’t take too long, for your own sanity

  • I promise it passes, you are in the trenches now mumma but 4 more weeks and life will start to get easier. I promise, if you are still concerned though see a doctor and trust your mum instinct

  • Have you tried swaddling her? Our baby girl was a bit like this, but around 4 months things have changed a bit for us. We still co-sleep, but at least she will sleep on her own and just wake up for a short “comfort” feed every 3 hours and then continue sleeping. So my answer is yes, she will grow out of it, but some babies are naturally just a little bit more demanding:).

  • I found that if I waited patiently things did change

  • Could be the heartbeat and obviously the comfort and warmth and scent of breast milk on hand. But possibly transfer to the cot with a T-shirt that smells of you. It will take effort to work through tears and baby wanting your closeness but give it a good few goes to let them self soothe after a good feed and clean nappy to go off in own space.

  • They are all so different you can only do what you think is right for your child. Some will grow out of it and some will keep going until you’ve had enough. If it is working for your family and you then it’s fine if not then see the health center and they can help you with a sleep specialist.

  • You are it sounds very kind and loving Mum but if you keep doing the same thing, bub only sleeping on your chest it will continue. Know it is not easy as your baby will cry but thats ok, you have to get into new routine. Put baby in cot or werever, talk to her as you go about your day so knows you are there. As she gets older have her in same room in,cot or anywhere she is safe. Sorry this sounds tough, but i you do not start detaching from baby now it will become a bigger problem. Hope all goes well..

  • Babies change all the time, she will change.

  • Yes!
    I help my baby to sleep a lot at first, he is 3 months old now and getting better at sleeping in his bassinet. My other two kids sleeping their beds and go to sleep on their own most night! PLUS, you don’t see many 20 year olds sleeping on their parents chest! lol So they all grow out of it at some point.
    Just try get them sleeping in the cot as much as you can and thats all you can do. 8 weeks is very young.

  • If you are happy doing what you’re doing then by all means keep going! You are supporting your baby. Personally, I found with my daughters relux elevating her cot helped a lot. Also, persistence in getting her to sleep in the cot was important to me as I didnt feel safe with her sleeping on my chest and also I couldnt get sleep. Sometimes just trying something else like patting or sitting beside the cot and it may take a little longer but they will adjust. With the falling asleep feeding, you could try feeding, change nappy then settle to break this association, but again depends what works for you :)

  • Your baby is still very young and might go through a growth spurt which often goes hand in hand with fussiness. It sounds like cluster feeding to me and this is totally normal. Here’s a nice reading about it https://kellymom.com/parenting/parenting-faq/fussy-evening/

  • I had my first like this, he is now 5 and was a fabulous sleeper from 7 months, I would gently remove after he/she slows down the sucking then pat their bottom even if they search again. The patting was usually enough for him to fall back asleep and stop needing boob to sleep with. Honestly don’t stress as they do all eventually sleep well but comfort nursing is also normal as is cluster feeding :)

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