navigating the in-laws with a new baby is the hardest experience, I ended up having panic attacks around my MIL after my children were born

The hide of her to demand anything, horrible woman

no way

I wouldn’t even allow my own mother, so anyone else would be off limits too.

Nope nope nope. Your child your choice

3 months old is definitely too young. Having said that my Mum was asked if she would mind their baby while they went to a wedding and reception on her side of the Mum’s family. The Mum actually preferred to leave the baby with her MIL instead of her own Mum. In fact they asked before the baby was born. While their house was being built they sometimes asked the Grandma if she would like to mind their daughter while they went and checked what the builders had done. It helped her get used to minding the baby girl before the wedding. The Mum breastfed for 6 weeks so that wasn’t an issue. I’m glad it gave the Grandma some experience as when the Mum got sick and had to go into hospital the baby didn’t fret when she had her for a few days so the father could concentrate on his wife knowing his daughter was being well cared for. Fortunately I was there then too so I was able to help her at night (I worked during the day)

I find it pretty sweet of the MIL to set up a nursery in her home. She must be very caring and genuinely want to be involved in he grand child’s life. As the saying goes, it takes a village to raise a child. That being said, my MIL offered to take my baby over night when he was about 2 months old after I made a passing comment that he has been having a few restless nights. She was only wanting to help and suggested it so I could get some sleep. I was a bit taken aback but politely declined. I was no way prepared to leave him overnight. I’m still not some three months later. Not to mention it would be pointless as I would still have to wake up to express anyway! Grandparents, they always mean well.

I personally would not allow it. My child my rules.

This is a pretty outrageous demand. I don’t know anyone who’d agree to it.

Ugh. The pressures of family. Unsure of the MIL situation but is it possible for mum and bub to both stay over (that way you can still feed bub and be there but also get an extra pair of “Grandma hands” to give you time for naps etc)? It is quite lovely that Grandma has set up a second nursery but I’d be honest and explain how I felt. Hopefully MIL is just unaware of the pressure she’s causing the new mum.

I would be saying hell no and you keep up your rot you never will

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 08 May 2019 , 5:10 am

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  3 months is just so young and there is no way I would have been comfortable with this arrangement.

It would be a hard “NO”.

I don’t see how she can demand that. Just say no!

My son is 2 and never had a sleep over night at his grandparents house! I think we are both ready now and are going to try it soon! Its her baby though and her choice so the husband needs to back up his wife and tell the MIL to back off a bit

I guess she’s not breastfeeding otherwise it would be kind of difficult. 🙂
No, I wouldn’t let the mother-in-law have her.

She can whinge all she likes. Its not her child. Hubby needs to grow a spine.

Not the sort of mother-in law l would like to have!

I wouldn’t be happy, lol. I never even left my babies for a hour alone by my parents or in laws.

I don’t take kindly to being pressured, so this wouldn’t go down well at all. I breastfed til 8-9 months so I wouldn’t have let my babies stay overnight til at least they were 12 months.