It’s not nice that they changed their mind after saying that they could come. I would be highly annoyed.
Even now I get annoyed when people say no kids but the whole family’s invited. Like who is going to baby sit if everyone is at the wedding?! My kids won’t stay with a random person, especially at night!

When I got married just over 35yrs ago we had a strict budget and we were limited to 50 people. We made the choice not to include children as they would reduce the number of adults we could invite and we would have to pay for the kids. No one protested and we had a great day and evening.
If you want to attend your brothers wedding you could go to the ceremony but skip the reception if you are not happy to have your children looked after.
You have to remember if they allow you to bring your kids then they have to allow everyone and that can add up to a very expensive event. If I had included children it would have added 23 extras to my wedding of 50 guests or I would have had to leave many adult guests off.
You might be able to talk to your brother about paying for your children to attend if it is a cost thing.

I know of a lot of weddings that were child free . Anyone should be allowed to go to the marriage ceremony , it’s the reception that costs the big money maybe ask you brother if they can come you have plenty of time while photos are taken etc to take children to babysitter etc

It would be tough for you and no doubt difficult for your brother to put this into place. I would be a little upset in your shoes. But ultimately, it is their wedding and their decision.

It’s a bit rude if they were told they could come and then told they couldn’t.

We had just immediate families kids, which cause only a problem once, but I guess you can’t please everyone
My sister had a kid free wedding which was fine too.

No we decided to have some children at our wedding but we were up front about who was invited and who was not and my brother did the same. Only our nieces and nephews – who were part of the wedding party – attended the wedding. However, as we had a church wedding we welcomed anyone to be part of that.

It’s their wedding so their rules, however, uninviting guests no matter what age is rude. You have a right to be upset and I’d be taking it up with him if he was my brother. My attitude would be, if my children are uninvited then so am I. They should have set the ground rules for their wedding from the get go.

It’s completely up to the couple but I can understand why this mum would be upset. I have been to weddings where kids were allowed at the ceremony & not the reception. Some times both but not for the whole reception. It would have been nice for the kids to have been apart of the wedding, even if it was only a small part but again it’s up to the couple.

Completely up to the couple as to who they invite but I think it’s really mean to invite the kids and then un-invite them. We’ve been to a few weddings (for family members) where my kids haven’t been invited and although disappointed understand that it’s expensive.

It should be up to the couple but often people still have kids from their family there. Just not all kids from every guest.

It’s obviously up to the couple if they choose to have a kids free wedding or not, BUT, to invite them and then change their minds is not on! I love to see children at wedding parties, they get so excited and look so cute all dressed up – we had lots of children on our wedding day and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.

Yes I would talk if this was my brother, even to express my feelings of hurt / disappointment because it could effect your relationship with him.

yes I can understand both sides of the story and I suppose you can chose to say no too

You’re invited to an expensive night the couple have put on, its their night not yours or your kids. Everyone has in-laws or friends so to say their is no one to look after the kids is crap. Better still sacrifice and have the one of you stay koo after the kids. Your kids will go to a tonne of parties so grow up and let the couple enjoy a romantic night without a heap of screaming kids running around under foot and costing a fortune. I can’t understand why grownups don’t want some time to enjoy a rare occasion it’s beyond me.

We had a child free wedding *HOWEVER* our niece did come because we didn’t want her to miss out, she was 2.5 and she was our flower girl. I didn’t want it any other way. I would say something because they were originally invited, this is so hurtful to young kids to be uninvited it’s so rude.

I’m cool with child free weddings, that’s totally their choice. But uninviting ANYONE is extraordinarily rude.

The main issue here in my opinion is that the children were invited, and then uninvited! This is wrong. It would have been disappointing not to be invited in the first place, but to be asked and then told they were not welcome is cruel …. it should have been stipulated right from the word go if they didn’t want children to attend ….

Harsh to invite then crush them by uninviting. Poor kids. I’ve never had a wedding (marriage was in a law court and I didn’t have kids then, now I’m divorced) but if I did have one, there’s no way I wouldn’t have my kids there and my nephews.

I would never go to the wedding if I couldnt take my son