I feel sorry for the mum as obviously she is going through a rough time with her son. I hope things get sorted for her and him so it’s not an ongoing issue

I commend the mum for warning the parker, but in all honesty, she’s still responsible for her son and any damage he does. I have immense sympathy for her – I’m not always thrilled at the ways my kids behave and the consequences for me, but as long as they’re kids, it is ultimately my responsibility.

I can appreciate what this Mum is trying to do, but for her son to grow up and fit into society, she is going to have to find some other solutions. I have a son with ASD, and it’s about finding a happy medium that works for everyone.

This appears to be quite layered and complicated.

No i think it was good she was able to let people know, but to dictate they cannot park there unless they want damage is wrong. She went about it entirely wrong

If the car is legally parked then rhis note wouldn’t hold up…except she’s now probably give proof if something does happen. Hope she has considerate neighbours

At least she’s letting them know the risks. Buy worried about the rock throwing, he’d need a bit of oomph to break a car window throwing a rock

I think the mother sounds like she’s trying every thing she can to cope with her child. However I don’t think that leaving a note on someone’s car is the right way to go about it.

I do appreciate that she gave him a heads up. Having a child with a disability is hard. The fact that she knows that her son is on the spectrum means she is probably doing everything she can for him in regards to therapies. Again raising a child with a disability is hard and my heart goes out to her.

Having a disability is not an excuse for poor behaviour. The parents need to put practical measures in place to address this. I can understand their frustration but it is not the other person’s fault for parking their car legally where they choose to.

It must be hard raising a kid like this, but in all honesty it is completely on the parent here. You need to remove yourself from a situation where your child is affecting other people’s lives. Including perhaps moving somewhere where you have a house on a larger block, where the behaviour won’t harm or affect others.

It’s a tough gig and this mum is doing the best she can. At the end of the day you can lock a child in and he probably needs fresh air as well. We don’t know her money situation and she may not be able to afford to do certain things to the apartment secure it or provide medicine for her child. At least she had the respect to warn the car owner.

I have 2 kids with serious disabilities and disorders and understand the stress this mum goes through. However I would do everything to prevent this behaviour (like putting locks on the sliding doors, only have my child going outside or on the balcony under 1on1 supervision) or own up for it by making things right and pay for repair of damages done by my child and of course seek support of professionals

There is a fine line between understanding & accepting your child, verses neglecting your childs needs. He clearly needs therapy ‘& mumma clearly needs some respite to get back on top of her game to handle the situation with her son.

I feel sorry for the mum but at the same time she is responsible for her child. Just cause her child had problems doesn’t give him a excuse for bad behaviour.

I really feel sorry for the mother. I think she did it cause she is concerned if there is damage. We don’t know her or the child’s situation. Hope she gets the help and support she needs for her child.

While i feel for the mother, she’s ultimately responsible for what her child is doing.
The biggest thing about leaving a note like this is, if the car is damaged, she has basically admitted her child is responsible, even if someone else did the damage.
I hope she is able to access the hello and resources needed to help with her child.

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  • • Ellen replied
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  I don’t agree that the mum is ultimately responsible for what her child is doing.
  Yes you’re responsible for a child, and yes you are responsible to attend to your childs needs as best as you can. But it doesn’t mean you can prevent everything. However you’re responsible for the consequences of your childs actions.
  For example I have a foster child with kleptomania; I cannot prevent her from stealing (believe me I tried and she has intensive therapy for 7 years now) but I can make things right and pay for the things she stole together with her

Sounds terribly tough for the mum. I think she is just trying to be helpful and considerate even though it may come across as a bit pushy

I feel sorry for the mum. I get it would be so hard and draining having a child with ADHD, it’s hard enough with any child to get them to listen and obey at times.

Parenting is hard but there is things you can do, other people are never going to be as receptive or understanding to the circumstances