I really hate it when our parents disrespect the rules we put in place for our own children. They literally do not have any say over how we raise our children and should respect that. There are so many controlling grandparent out there.

Get an apprehensive violence order against her that’s what I would do . Putting holes in someone that is not yours is grevous bodily harm far as I’m concerned

Definitely not ok!

Totally not respecting boundaries, I’d be furious.

If the MIL can’t respect her decision then she can get over the fact she won’t have unsupervised access, she clearly can’t be trusted. She’s gonna be one of these nannas that say “don’t tell your mum” and will end up teaching the kid to lie from a young age

Your child your decision, if she won’t take no for an answer she has brought it on herself. If you feel she can be depended on to keep a written promise, ask her to put it in writing and sign in front of witnesses that having access to unsupervised visits is conditional upon her not getting baby’s ears pierced. Should she break this contract you will sue her for harming your child and refuse her access to the child in future
Make copies and send them to all family so they are in no doubt about your wishes re childs ears. She seems sneaky enough to get someone in the family to let her get them done while they are caring for the child. Good luck, stand your ground. Suggest to husband she take him to get his done and ask him if he’s prepared to put his child through that.

Your MIL has no right to get YOUR daughter’s ears pierced. She is your child. You’re right, when your daughter grows up, she can decide for herself. If MIL doesn’t respect your decision, then supervised visits the way to go.

Your MIL is totally out of line, it is none of her business when you want her ears pierced, I would be so angry if my MIL did anything like that, this is your daughter you have the say when her ears are pierced

This mother in law is completely doing the wrong thing. I would be ropeable if anyone thought they could make a decision like that about my child.

This enraged me! It’s mutilation of a minor. Bad enough when parents pierce the ears of their own children when they’re so young but a grandparent? Disgraceful!

Not only will the child grow and could end up with piercings or scars that aren’t even or well placed but I’m willing to bet the grandmother would go to some place they use one of those ‘piercing guns’ like barbarians.

I hope the mother holds her own on this and continues to ensure the two aren’t left alone together, ever.

Behind the mum 100%

I back the mother of the baby all the way. How dare anyone think it is okay to override the parents wishes and what does this grandmother think is going to be the outcome of her deceit and furthermore, what is her obsession with getting a baby’s ears pierced anyway? Wow I certainly was blessed with my mother in law as she would never have contemplated doing anything like this.

100% she’s done the right thing. I will never understand why grandparents think they have the right to override the parents wishes. I wouldn’t be letting her have any unsupervised time with the child either.
The only person to blame for the rift is the mil. All she has to do is say (and mean it) that she won’t do it.

Definitely not overreacting. She should have the say as its her child.

Of course she’s done the right thing! I wouldn’t even let MIL see the grandchild for a while if she’s not listening and especially accepting the mother’s choice.

Every parent has every right to their child as long as it is for their well-being and will not harm them. MIL should respect the mom’s decision.

You are not overreacting by refusal to keep MIL have care of your child when she has made her intentions clear. You have voiced your opinion, it is your child and you have every right to not have your babies ears pierced. We waited until our daughter was old enough and asked for it to be done. We then waited longer until she begged us and we were sure it wasn’t something she was not going to regret. Everyone happy in the end

I agree she is not over reacting and who’s to say the baby (girl when older) even wants her ears pearced. I think her husband needs to talk to his mum and put his foot down, it’s not the mums job to manage her MIL.

You have been very clear on your wishes, which as your daughter’s mum take precedent over grandma. The fact that she is still trying to do it behind your back means she has broken your trust, and is now copping the results. you are not overreacting, she is out of line. From this point forward she has to earn your trust back.

That is disgraceful! Where do some ppl get off!? The Mil has no say whatsoever over her grandchildren. Good on you mum for stopping unsupervised access to your daughter

She is not over reacting at all!