Kissing babies on the lips may have been common in the past, but these days, we know better so we do better. Or at least, most of us do.
It’s well known that kissing babies puts them at risk of contracting illnesses that are mild for adults, but can prove fatal to a newborn. But one woman says she’s reconsidering whether to have children with her partner, because he says allowing his parents to kiss their baby on the lips is a ‘non-negotiable’.
The 23-year-old says she’s now told her 27-year-old fiancé she won’t have children with him if he doesn’t change his mind.
“We recently had this huge argument about whether letting his parents kiss our future child or not on the lips,” she explained in a forum. “I am completely against it because I always found that weird just seeing it happen to their other grandchildren.
“But my fiancé is saying that his parents giving our child a kiss on the lips is non-negotiable. I told him they can kiss the child’s head or cheek to show affection but not the lips because it makes me uncomfortable.
“He says I lacked love and affection from my parents because they never did that to me as a child, but his parents did that to him and his siblings growing up, so he was given more affection as a child than I.
“He said if I disagreed then he would just let his parents do it without my consent, especially if I’m not present.”
“Hearing him say that has caused me to fear having a child with him a little now because he’d go behind my back and do it anyways.”
She asked if she was in the wrong for now letting her in-laws kiss her future child on the lips, and the other forum members let her know that she’s doing the right thing.
“Don’t let anyone kiss your baby’s mouth, face, or any part of their body unless they’ve been tested. Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) absolutely CAN infect, blind, or kill your (future) baby. Don’t let their mouths anywhere near baby without recent (and frequent) tests,” one person commented.
Another gave her a warning: “DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN. DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS MAN.
“He has straight up told you he will ignore your feelings and do whatever he wants with your child. That is an enormous red flag. Aside from the complete disrespect he has demonstrated he’s also willing to disregard health risks to his own child in order to enforce outdated customs.
“Doctors SPECIFICALLY warn against this for babies because of how easy it is to spread disease that way, ESPECIALLY newborns under 6 months.”
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