Do you have any friends or family that are overly affectionate with your kids. I do, and it drives me absolutely crazy!
So when a mum posted on reddit that she can’t stand it when her in-laws never stop kissing her one-year-old baby, I knew exactly how she felt.
“How do I get my husband’s family to stop kissing my 1yr old? I’ve already asked them to stop and they “forget” or ‘don’t see the problem’. I don’t want them to kiss her on the lips because I don’t see the NEED for people to kiss her on the lips,” she shared.
The frustrated mum said that she felt that kissing her child on the lips was unhygienic and she was concerned her child might catch something. It also made her very uncomfortable.
“It makes me uncomfortable. There’s another child in the family and they hardly ever kiss him. I feel my brother-in-law is the weirdest with it to the point that it creeps me out. How do I get them to stop? (I live with them so not letting them around her would be sort of difficult),” she continued.
Stop The Smooching
Many of the commenters were in agreement with the poster, suggesting some tactics to get the kissers to stop their smooching.
“Hey, baby has gotten sick a lot recently, so keep the smooches to the top of the head or tummy please,” suggested one comment.
“Maybe saying something like this: “I have asked you before not to kiss [child] on the lips but you keep doing it. It makes me wonder why you think your desire to be physically intimate with a little girl is more important than respecting the physical boundaries we’ve put in place to protect her.”
“If they can’t follow the rules they don’t get baby snugs. You don’t have to get crazy or yell, it’s simple. Your baby, your rules.”
Others felt that ‘violating your stated physical boundaries’ was definitely not on.
“I’d make a fuss,” said one commenter.
It’s A Generational Issue
One reddit user suggested that this may be a ‘generational issue’.
“This is a really tricky subject that can cause quite a bit of contention between parents and grandparents. It seems to be a generational thing from.my experience. My parents didn’t understand why I wouldn’t let them hold my baby when he clearly disliked bring held by others”.
“For me it’s to do with consent, children are often unable to provide consent to physical affection, but that should not mean they don’t get a choice. As the parent you are the most in tune with your child and will often know what they are most comfortable with.” they advised.
We’ve all read horror stories of young babies catching the deadly cold sore virus from overly affectionate physical attention so we are in absolute agreement with this mum.
What would you do in this situation? Tell us in the comments below.
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