I live in a small country town in Tasmania, only a couple of thousand people live here, and we are about 32 kms away from another small town that we have both had something in common.
BULLYING WHICH CAUSED 2 SUICIDES – 1 was a 15 year old girl, how awful for her family, and how awful for that beautiful young lady who had her life ahead of her, she felt like she had to commit suicide, and hung herself in a park in this small town near us. She was left there hanging for 5 hours, school buses full of school kids of all ages went past her not long after she was found, all to be seen, those poor kids, how do you explain in to them.
And…. the cause was bullying. Bullying on Facebook and bullying in the school yard. Now, we can’t blame Facebook, I am an admin of 2 groups, a creater of 1 group on Chronic Pain, so you can’t blame Facebook. Without facebook, I know of 4 other people who would of committed suicide.
I blame the schools. They say they have a policy on bullying but I know for a fact that kids who bully others in the schools get away with it. My 5 yr old granddaughter became a victim of bullying in Prep in the second week of school. So, what do we do? We all need to take it more seriously, including the parents of these “good” kids who are terrible bullies. I have heard it over and over again “My child is not a bully, she//he couldn’t be, she/he has so many friends.” There are many teachers here that ignore kids when they tell them they are being bullied. “OH just go and play”, they have been told. Then,
The second suicide was a friend of mine. A friend for 12 years. She was in her late 50’s, being bullied again on Facebook by another woman in her 50’s. She should have known better. How dare a grown woman bully another, that is absolutely disgraceful, aren’t we adult enough to talk as adults, sort out the problems instead of airing out private matters in public. My friend went outside, supposedly to go to the toilet, her hubby sat in the lounge room. Next thing he saw a police car pull up, so he walked out the back door to greet this policewoman, to find his wife, my friend, hanging in the carport. He screamed out for help, saying she is still alive, help me help me, so the policewoman, went out of procedure and got her down, but it was definitely far too late. She had been dead for awhile. He was so sure she hadn’t gone long, but as soon as she walked outside, she got the string that binds bails of hay, climbed up on the back of the ute, put the string in place and jumped. Instantly gone.
To me, suicide due to bullying should be regarded as a kind of manslaughter. She would not have hung herself if she wasn’t bullied. She had only days before rung me for help to take this woman to court that was giving her trouble. A nasty piece of work. But, no, her husband of over 36 years will always remember seeing how she died.
We all need to unite, stop bullying, or all talk about it between eachother, with friends, teachers, principals, family, neighbours, everyone. We need to stop bullying, it really isn’t fair, and not right. We were not bought into this life to be nasty to others.
There would be many more real life stories like this everywhere, but this is the 3rd suicide in the 14 years we have been here. It is so very sad.
Please do me a favour, if you read this, talk to someone about how we can stop bullying, then post a message who you spoke to, not a name, a title, whether it was the local police, neighbour, principal, teacher, mother, father, etc etc. If we spread what has happened in this town, and how awful and sad this is, then hopefully we can do our bit. If you know someone who is a bully, please sit them down and tell them about this young lady and my friend, and how bullying can cause suicide, because if I have my way, bullying that leads to suicide WILL become manslaughter.
Thank you and lets all be happy
Posted by dee lindsay, 28th March 2015