family fued - Real Mum story on MoM

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So I have a 19 month old daughter and a 6 almost 7 month old son. They are my beautiful little babies that are the only things keeping me sane. Im over the simple things like the fued and arguments of which grandparents are better. I don’t see how there should even be the battle really. I’m one of six girls brought up by a single mum and only had ever known one grandmother who in that fact wasn’t around much, so I honestly don’t know the feeling of having two grandparents let alone four. When I fell pregnant with my daughter I was 18 and boy did I cop the lot of it from my family mostly my mother. I was pressured into having an abortion and when I didn’t want to go ahead with the termination I waited till past 12 weeks thinking they would all accept the idea of me having a baby. ..I thought wrong, I then received emails from my sisters regarding adoption companies and even received calls from adoption companies and pamphlets. I had cut ties with them until I was about 36 weeks pregnant and sure enough they all started talking with me and all the lovely “you are going to be such a great mother” nonsense came about. I then fell pregnant with my son shortly after birth of my daughter and yes sure enough all hell hit the roof. Coming on 7 months since my sons birth I feel more and more distant from my family and closer to my partners family. I have my mother living with me at present and I have been in trouble for everything I do. I take my children to play group of a Tuesday and my daughter goes to kindy of a Friday and my mum says that is too much. I play with paint and playdough and all sorts of activities at home with my children everyday and mum said I shouldn’t be because its making such a mess. My children have been out of routine since she moved in and she threatens to have them removed as I have apparently no parenting skills what so ever. I have an older sister who has two children herself and everyone just compares her to me…like oh if these were so and so’s children they would not be having a dummy blah blah blah. ..it just infuriates me as to think that my oldest sister is the only one who is obviously allowed to have kids… Why do families have to be so hard.

Posted anonymously, 20th March 2014

7 Comments

- - mom165744 said
  - 26 Jan 2016
    11:26 pm
It sounds like you’re doing a great job and your mother is the one with the problem. From what you’ve said u are really committed to your children’s well being. Playgroup, kindy, craft activities at home, these r all great things for your children. Perhaps it’s time for your mum to leave.

- - robyn_smithwick said
  - 21 Nov 2015
    2:11 pm
There is an old saying. You can pick your friends but cant pick your family. I hate to say this but the sooner your mum leaves your house to live somewhere else the better. Perhaps your sister would love to have her at her place.

- - mom81879 said
  - 12 Sep 2015
    1:03 pm
I wish I could answer that. My family has cut me off, or vice versa, and it’s all down to stupid petty little things. I’m not going to worry about it though, they know where I am if they want me

- - mom113055 said
  - 07 Apr 2015
    12:07 pm
top story to read

- - mom113055 said
  - 05 Apr 2015
    11:15 am
great exellent

- - yyon4699 said
  - 21 Mar 2014
    11:09 am
Well this shows that you are strong enough to go ahead with what you think is best for you. Surely there are obstacles but you are blessed with 2 beautiful children and I am sure you are a very proud mum now!

- - arcticwynta said
  - 21 Mar 2014
    10:30 am
I was 16 when I fell pregnant with my first and just 17 when she was born. She is turning 30 this year I was lucky my Mum gave me all the options but when I said I was keeping it Mum was thrilled but that did not stop people from showing up and saying get rid of it no one will want some one with a kid remember I was pregnant 31 years ago and so forth of other peoples comments and all the relatives said I would drag her up and she would be a nobody and pregnant and unmarried and all sort of nasty. After she was born my Grand Father came over and said to my Mum throw me and the baby out as we had tarnished the family name and people were talking … I can’t write my parents reply here lol My Grand Mother disowned me and all she called me when I was pregnant was a slut. By the way I had been with that person for 4 years but he was gone after 2 weeks when I was 8 weeks pregnant. I may have been young but I had a voice and I told alot of people to pull their heads in she was mine and I would raise her my way no one else. I did not care what relatives thought and did not bother with them and to this day I only bother with 2 of my cuz that stood by me. I married at 19 than my Grand Mother thought it was fine to try and talk to me but to late. My Daughter is married graduated grade 12 and is now doing her EN cert as well as her other cert she already has. She does not do drugs or smoke nor has she been in trouble with the police but after I married I fell pregnant 2 months after we were married so than I had 2 kids under 20 years off age and mind you our wedding was small as family was not welcome except parents. If you know your are a good mum tell yours to pull her head in that they are are your kids and you will do what you see fit for them.