nice exellent

Younger or older there is advantages and disadvantages.

It can’t have been easy for you, not having family nearby. I know what that’s like, as I lived overseas for a couple of years, and family was what I missed the most. Full points to you and your hubby for having plans in place so that you can enjoy parenthood without some of the stresses that many couples face. I hope that things continue to go well for you all.

I wish! When we finally managed to have a bub, I got the sack, we were still renting, and had not had the money to do any travelling!

there are always positives

I’m an older mum. There are advantages and disadvantages to being both an older and a younger mum. Everyone works out what’s best for themselves given their own circumstances.

Very true, people rarely mention the possible financial benefits of being an older mum

I’m an older mum, 37 when I had our daughter and agree there are a lot of advantages – I can’t see any disadvantages for us at this stage, we’re all coasting along ok.

they are all great reasons to try and delay having a baby

There are always struggles at any age to have a family. There are also pros and cons to both scenarios.

You’re right; there are pluses and minuses to having a baby at any age. Good luck!

I am also a older mum I had my first child at the age of 34 and I have no regrets in waiting as I know if I had a child when I was younger I know I would have not been able to cope mentally or financially

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  • • gouldie replied
    • 18 May 2014 , 4:11 pm

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  Me too Sisterhood27. I think I got sick of hearing the negative comments about older Mums, so I wanted to highlight some things that I hadn’t seen written anywhere else – hence this story.

My girlfriend said something to me the other day, about how much better mum i was than her. my reply was. “I was there when you had your kids, you did fabulous. I had mine ten years after you, I was older and I have money, it makes a huge difference.” She’s a great mum and her kids are super special, she worked full time and didn’t have the huge support network that i have. Everyone has their own journey.

There are so many benefits of being older when you decide to have children. I would have thought that realistically in this economic climate it is probably more the norm now

I have to agree being an older parent has its pros & cons. I feel I can better provide for my children as I am more set up financially & have made the big purchases & nearly paid off the mortgage. The disadvantage is cracking joints when trying to play on the floor with your children!

I think that with the average age of life expectancy going up older mums with see grandchildren and even perhaps great grandchildren. I loved this article.

I do agree with what you have said and yes there are alot of good things to being an older Mum, but there is alot as well to being young I had my first just after turning 17 and was a Grandmother at 32 which was good as I had so much energy and so did Hubby but now we get the good and am able to give them back. We manged to have a house built and own it and go away just more to pack but I think a baby at any age is a blessing and at any age things can go wrong but for some reason or another they always like to put it down to your age. Yes as you get older your eggs are not as good as when you were younger that is very true as well as alot of your other points. We always owned our cars and furniture but know we don;t have to worry about spills on the furniture or jumping on the lounge or beds. So there is good to both sides of this coin

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  • • gouldie replied
    • 18 May 2014 , 4:07 pm

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  Hi Arcticwynta,
  Oddly enough my parents were not even 21 when they had me, and my paternal grandparents married late in life whereas my maternal grandparents married early so I grew up knowing my great-grandparents as well.
  There were good things about all of this, and I also saw that no matter what the circumstance, the amount of love you have for your grand-children or great-grand children isn’t affected be age.
  I’m glad that you are enjoying your grand-children. My Mum has told me that she wished I had had kids when she was younger because she isn’t as healthy as she was — and has started to place a set of things that she will/will not do with our soon-to-be-born son. Oddly enough I remember doing more things with my older (i.e. paternal) set of grandparents than I did with the younger grandparents. Hopefully she will change her mind a little when she meets her one (and only) grandchild.

I think some of these reasons are why some people are actually leaving parenthood for later on when they are more financially stable.

Great words, also as we are older, we have fewer regrets..ie I didn’t get to travel, go to this of that club

I agree i hate it when people say “oh aren’t you leaving it rather late to have children” or “don’t you think your to old to be starting a family now”
Looking back now if i had the choice i would of waited until i was a little older and had more of a stable lifestyle.

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  • • Mrs Bucket (that's pronounced Bouquet) replied
    • 31 May 2014 , 9:23 pm

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  I hated people constantly saying that to me as well.