Finished our family...I'm pretty sure

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In the past 6 years I have been lucky enough to find the love of my life, married him & we now have 2 beautiful boys who I love with all my heart.

Despite having relatively comfortable pregnancies (no morning sickness but both boys favoured my right side ribs for kicking practise!!), I had my first at 37 weeks via emergency c-section & now my 6 week, who I had at nearly 36 weeks, again via emergency c-section. He also spent the first (& longest it seemed) 11 days if his life in special care nursery getting strong enough to come home with us.

I love being pregnant – it’s when I actually keep myself the healthiest. I love being a mum – it is fulfilling & rewarding in so many ways. But when my husband asked me if I thought we would have any more children I couldn’t give him a definitive answer.

Yes – because we have made 2 wonderful sons together & he is an amazing Dad. I love the anticipation of being pregnant, feeling life growing & just waiting to meet this new little person.

But, bigger in my mind, no – while I think I do pregnancy pretty well, the birth bit hasn’t turned out so well for me. Though my second wasn’t quite as frantic a c-section as the first was, it was still something that happened so much faster than I could keep up with. That & knowing the likelihood of having another baby come early is pretty high for me, I couldn’t bear to have to be in a maternity ward again without my baby, hearing everyone else’s…leaving hospital to go home without my baby & feeling so surreal & guilty that I wasn’t there with him when he wasn’t strong enough.

I don’t want to make any decisions at the moment that would be permanent but I know I need to be realistic. My age doesn’t favour me waiting for too long to decide either. I know at the moment I don’t have to decide really but there will come a time when the question might be asked again…I guess I’ll know my answer then!

Posted by elmo77, 12th August 2013

10 Comments

- - mom206279 said
  - 31 Mar 2017
    12:02 pm
Don’t rule it out with a 6 week old bub. My husband got his vasectomy when our bub was 8 weeks old and now ‘one more’ goes through my mind a lot even though I know it was the right decision. Wait and make the decision when things have settled down a bit.

- - mom57522 said
  - 06 Jan 2015
    7:01 pm
I have my girls and always think one more might be nice, then change my mind again.

- - 3timesamum said
  - 26 Jun 2014
    6:16 pm
You can change your mind as often as you want.

- - koloababe4 said
  - 19 Mar 2014
    9:01 pm
Just see what happens a baby girl might be nice.

- - missmilf09 said
  - 14 Aug 2013
    8:19 am
if you have any more, youll have more, if not, then your all set

- - premmiemum said
  - 13 Aug 2013
    8:09 pm
Im the same. I met my partner later in life and then had trouble conceiving and im now 37 and had 2nd ceaserean 7 months ago sk would need wait some time before.tryjng again. Im happy with our 2 girls but there slme part of me that misses being pregnant and would like a boy.

- - clarebear1983 said
  - 13 Aug 2013
    1:46 pm
Give yourself some time for sure because things might still be a little fresh

- - nikad33 said
  - 13 Aug 2013
    8:53 am
im in the same boat atm but don’t think I could have any more I love the labour part but not so much being pregnant im about to have my second in the next 5 weeks

- - meltingmoment said
  - 13 Aug 2013
    7:13 am
I’m like you. I had two IVF chilldren but became so pre-eclamptic with both that I had to have them delievered 3 weeks earl via a caeser . I would love to have another child, and I have 6 frozen empbryos in storage but as I am 1 year away from the big 40, I just don’t know.

- - kaz_123 said
  - 13 Aug 2013
    2:49 am
Definitely give yourself a little time, you never know how you might feel a little way down the track