I have slowly come to the realisation that alcohol and I do not have a great relationship. I love it. It hates me. Unfortunately, over the years it has become a bit of a ‘reward’ or a ‘stress release’ after a hard day and when the kids were little especially, I was known to open a bottle when I was cooking dinner (and I’d start cooking their dinner at 4pm somedays!).
About 2 months ago, I had a particularly bendy bender with a friend as we had a weekend free of our ‘Mum’ responsibilities. True to form, I swore that I was never drinking again when I woke up the next morning. But strangely, I haven’t wanted to drink since then at all. Normally I would last a week or two and then a friend would come over and I’d open a bottle out of habit. This time is different. Drinking alcohol just doesn’t appeal to me any more and I’m happy to say that I feel and look better as a consequence.
However, I am currently being tested on that resolution. At a weak moment, we agreed to have a holiday with my mother-in-law and at the moment I am hiding in my bedroom pretending to be asleep! I know that she loves my husband and children, but the constant criticism of me is wearing thin. The last time we saw her, she wrestled a vegetable peeler out of my hands because I was peeling a cucumber the wrong way. This was an hour after she unpegged my clothes from the line and showed me how to re-peg them ‘properly’. You name it, I am doing it the wrong way! My husband is fabulous and intervenes when he sees these things happening (and has spoken to her separately on a number of occasions), but my usual coping mechanism of a glass of wine is no longer an option. So if anyone has any way of getting me through the next few days with a little dignity and class, I’d love your input (I’m a big believer in my husband dealing with his family and me with mine if there’s ever any conflict, so I will not cause tension unnecessarily).
If you can offer some suggestions for getting through that first hour at a party alcohol free that would be also greatly appreciated and put into my alcohol-free arsenal.
Posted by aussiemum, 12th April 2014