Positive Reinforcements for first time parents

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After I had my little girl as a first time parent everything was a worry. I had no idea what I was doing and everything seemed to go wrong. I had to express because she wouldn’t attach, I had mastitis three times, I had a back injury and it was tough and me and my husband. It certainly didn’t help to have in-laws constantly telling me how tired I looked, how they didn’t like my colour, asking if I was unwell and saying how it didn’t seem we were coping and they were there to help. Moving to solids was another nightmare with questioning about why were not giving her particular foods (like honey, peanut butter etc). Constant negative comments which just created further anxiety and have now driven a wedge. My daughter is now a very healthy, active and cheeky 16 month old and I don’t listen to anyones negative comments. If you are reading this and know a first time parent, or even someone who has a second or third child, give them a thumbs up. Let them know that they are doing a great job. Any piece of positive reinforcement can keep spirits up.

Posted by kathryn, 28th September 2013

4 Comments

- - dannsbuild said
  - 30 Sep 2015
    1:50 pm
Very interesting and it is important to keep those spirits up! Thanks so much for sharing this!

- - mom57522 said
  - 07 Jan 2015
    9:34 pm
As a first time parent we already have enough insecurities!

- - omgjag31 said
  - 28 Sep 2013
    8:58 pm
Great article. I am sure you are a great parent.

- - emilycost said
  - 28 Sep 2013
    8:51 pm
thats good advice, i think people sometimes forget how hard it is and push there opinions on parents regardless on how well they are coping (it seems especially first time parents and young parents). and i am glad your little miss is doing great!