Looking back I feel a bit silly for thinking having one child was difficult, I remember second guessing myself all the time, questioning the choices I made. Should I rock her to sleep, will holding her too much make a rod for my own back, I should know how to stop my baby crying why can’t I? The list went on and on and on.
I am now a proud mummy to two girls and as a friend with two herself said “-you sure know your alive!! “The logistics of that second child just make everything more challenging. Everything takes that bit longer to do, organisation and pre planning you could get away without the first time around are now essential, not only for your children’s happiness and well being but your own sanity.
Some things I have very quickly learned is that babies grow up way way too fast, as challenging as it has been so far I remind myself constantly to slow down and appreciate each special moment. Sometimes babies cry for what seems like no reason at all and refuse to sleep anywhere but your chest, this isn’t my fault as a mother so blaming myself or feeling like I have failed in some way isn’t helpful or healthy. When help is offered take it gratefully, never politely decline and if its not offered ask for it!
I look forward to seeing my two girls grow up together and all the special moments we will share together. In the moments i see my older daughter act out due to having to share my attention, i remind myself that she wont hold it against me forever and i have given her a little sister who will love her and look up to her her whole life and I don’t think I could ask for anything better than that for her.
Posted by mamadan, 26th March 2013