My eldest daughter is nearly four years old and is from a previous relationship, in which I left due to domestic violence issues. She is developmentally delayed and from that has been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder and she is also lactose intolerant. Every fortnight she goes to her dad’s for the weekend, and I have told him a few times of her lactose intolerance, and yet he still gives her dairy products, she comes home from her dad’s complaining of a sore stomach and a bit of a rash.
I have a set routine for her and everytime she comes back it takes nearly the whole two weeks to get her back into it and makes me feel like the bad parent because I have to set so many boundaries because there are little to none when she goes there.
I don’t begrudge him wanting to spend time with her, I’m all for it I just don’t know what else to do. I could really use some advice.
Posted anonymously, 9th July 2014