When is it going to get better? - Real Mum story on MoM

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I am normally a very positive person and see positives in most situations but I am really struggling. Last year we lost my dad to a massive heart attack and i went into a bit of a funk after that then my 16 year old step daughter moved in with us!!!! My husband drinks a lot and often brings up the split from his ex which was 13 years ago i have a hard time with that too. We live interstate from all our families and havent been able to make any real friends where we are. All three kids are now at school 5 days a week and I feel like my step daughter expects me to do everything because i am a stay at home mum. Then to top everything else off we lost my husbands dad and uncle all within the last month. I am feeling pretty lonely and dont feel i can talk to anyone i dont like feeling so down and out, feel like a house maid, am so very grateful that i have my husband who i love so much and my gorgeous kids always bring a smile to my face. Just feeling a little lost

Posted anonymously, 11th February 2015

9 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 17 Jan 2017
    8:15 am
It’s so hard to climb out of these funks once they hit. Here’s hoping your life and outlook has become happier now

- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 25 Oct 2015
    5:20 pm
I hope you have had some positives in your life by now and I’m sorry to hear about your losses

- - mom81879 said
  - 21 Sep 2015
    5:51 pm
My annus horribilus was 2009. My daughter was raped, my dad died, my partner attempted suicide, my son enlisted in the army then my daughter decided she couldn’t live at home anymore…..and that was just the first 6 months! Things are so much better now, hopefully all you need is time too

- - merlin2012 said
  - 18 Jun 2015
    11:47 am
Oh no. You’ve hit a rough patch. I think every person is entitled to 6 free family counselling sessions. All you need is a referral from a doctor. Alternatively you can type free ciunselling Australia into Google and find organisation’s and apps. Good luck with everything

- - jenniw said
  - 13 Feb 2015
    9:19 am
You have had a lot to deal with in quite a short period of time… Take some time out to look after yourself and maybe even book an appointment with someone to talk to in order to give yourself some new strategies on how to deal with things. Am sure the positive you will come back in no time

- - gouldie said
  - 12 Feb 2015
    9:00 pm
Try to stay strong. Life brings many changes and hopefully some good things will come your way. Can you think of a way to tell your hubby how bad his drunken discussion of his previous relationship upsets you? Or develop some friendships either in your area, through your kids school or an online group? From experience teens have to learn things their own way, so I’d suggest not trying to change her mind about her perception of you; but also try to see if you can do something that you enjoy to help you feel better. An old hobby, gardening, walking or just ringing an old friend can remind us of happier times.

- - pakeko said
  - 12 Feb 2015
    8:52 pm
My goodness what a lot you have been though/going though. Time to find you in all that, find a amazing support person (either friend or counselor) to help you work though all you are going though. You arecvgrieving along with dealing with a blended family, time to take care of yourself and help you see the light

- - mom93821 said
  - 11 Feb 2015
    6:48 pm
Sorry to hear of your losses and tough times. Maybe try and get some support as it sounds like you need to talk to someone about your feelings. Have you thought about speaking with a counsellor or even joining a mum’s or other group? May be worth investigating and trying?

- - BellaB said
  - 11 Feb 2015
    4:15 pm
Sympathy. We’ve had one of those “when will it get better ” patches too. I’m just trusting that it will, eventually, improve.