The pressure to return to work once bubs is born is so upsetting. When pregnant the ‘harrassment” started by asking when ill be back. Once bubs was born the family and old work mates asked. Then the pressure to place my child into day care began. When bubs was 6 months old work was calling me and trying to get me to return. But I knew what my heart wanted, no way was I placing my child into day care just to work. I wanted to be with my baby and enjoy watching her grow. When she turned 1 my son was born, and then the pressure to place her into day care began just so i could be alone with son. It was making me furious, “just shut up about day care!!” i wanted to scream at these people! Funny thing is once work left me alone it was the family placing pressure on me.

So now daughter is 3 and son is 2 and they have never been to day care and ive chosen not to work. Daughter is enrolled into preschool for next year and the son after that. Once both kids are in primary school then i will return to a caual retail position so that i can always be there for them if need be. After all, i am a mum and by wanting to be a mum you take on roles and i always want to be there for my children and i’m always there by their sides to watch them grow.

Thats why i love being a stay at home mum, its a tough job but the most rewarding.

Posted by moonstone, 6th May 2013

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  • You are very lucky to be in a position of being able to choose hone of work. My daughter in law has just returned to work because she had to. Luckily she’s in childcare and her baby is with her all say, but it’s not the same


  • Do what you want to do!
    I love being a stay at home mother and would hate for that to change.


  • I have my daughter in daycare so I could return to work. It has been very beneficial for us and her development. Now I’m home on maternity leave again and feel so guilty that she is in daycare and I am home. She loves it there and I can’t give her everything she has there (7 little friends her age for one!) as well as tertiary qualified staff that have been helping me along my parenting journey. I take my hat off to anyone that loves being a SAHM.I wish I was better at it!


  • That’s great that your sticking to your guns with what you want.


  • Pleased you’re doing what you want :-)


  • totally agree with you,back in the day when it was the only thing heard of being a stay at home mum no one pressured you now it seems we are looked down upon if we choose to stay at home with our children.i say enjoy your children they grow so fast


  • I stopped work as soon as my first son was born, I wanted to be a stay at home mum and housewife and look after the family, to always be there when the kids get home from school and not an empty house. I love it!


  • i know! i always grew up wanting to be a mum and housewife…


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