I had big age gaps. 3 years between first and second and then 5 years berween second and third.

If there is 2 years between the birth of your 2 babies and birthday months are close, together your body has not had 2 years to recover.

Nice to know… but as someone who had a child through IVF it was not something I could control at all.

No we didn’t consider a specific age gap and have 1 year and 3 weeks between our eldest 2. Our kids are now 14, 13, 8 and 4,5 years old.

I think two years would be way too small for my liking. I waited nine years between mine (not purposely but the years definitely flew) my eldest is very much balanced and secure. Not to mention the horror of having two kids under the age of five who don’t yet sleep all night through.

Never knew this but had roughly a 2 year gap between mine.

It is different for everyone, cheers. The age gap for one family may not work for another.

Friends of ours there is either 2 1/4 or 2 1/2 years between each baby. They have been lucky they have never had 2 in nappies for long at the same time.

That is exactly what my lovely OBGYN lady told me years ago.

I listened to my mum’s advice and it has seemed to work for me- have one out of nappies before you have another one. Otherwise it is way too expensive! We started trying for baby number 2 when our daughter was 2 years old. We were lucky and fell straight away and by the time he was born our daughter was toilet trained. They seem to get along really well and enjoy playing with each other.

Nice if you can have your fertility work that way. I think you need to take what you can get, and getting pregnant naturally is not a given.

My kids are 13, 12, 10, 8, 7 and 4 years old. We didn’t really plan as such.

My older children I tried for about the two year mark and got that then. The other children were surprises, so their age gaps are bigger. My daughter was born when the youngest of her brothers was 15 and then the twins came along about ten years later. So that left me with more time for my oldest daughter as her brothers were mid to late teens. The twins was the ones that were the most work due to age of me (51) and twins need a bit more time then single births. Though had four other children, 3 adult by then to help.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 01 Mar 2018 , 3:35 am

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  Wow !

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    • • rachel1970 replied
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    Wow, super Mum, twins at 51! I had my twins at 38-have four children. Yep, twins is pretty tough especially if they were premmie like mine were.

That’s quite a manageable gap for most families.

I have 2 years and 4 months between my two. As older parents (I’m 39 and hubby 41) we find it tiring at the moment but as sleep improves for everyone and as Isla gets more interactive with her older brother I think we’ll all enjoy it more.
It has taken Thomas quite a while to adjust (especially to the crying and sharing mum!) but now he is coping a lot better.