Its hard as I have found that the schools really dont listen

Being bullied myself during my school years, I have always failed this could happen to my daughter and it has already and she is only 4. The mother of the other child didn’t seem to care so I took my daughter out of the situation calmly and it hasn’t happened again but that is because I chose to keep my daughter away from this girl. I worry a lot about school and how cruel kids can be. I hope my daughter feels safe enough to come talk to me about these types of things.

My youngest was being bullied at school but he would never talk about it. It finally came to a head when his cousin came to his rescue while at school. His cousin saw this kid who was twice as solid as my boy and was jumping on his back and calling him names. His cousin pulled the kid off and tossed him to the ground (luckily it was a grassy area) and stood with my son to show they weren’t scared. What made me angry was the kid who did it to lots of kids was told he was naughty and not to do it again. My son’s cousin was expelled for a week. I kicked up a stink about that and they said no-one would say anything against this kid because they were all scared of him. Ridiculous

This is a tough one! Sometimes the child will not tell their parents as they try to deal with it themselves, or for fear of recriminations …. Half the battle is identifying the problem. Then, try to get them to open up and discuss the issue. Suggestions ways to deal with it is a good starting point, unless it has already gone past that stage. Getting a role model involved often helps and failing that, reporting to school officials.

Great article to read.

I’d like to think that listening and allowing them to come to a solution with or without our involvement would work. If not it depends on the situation and type of bullying as to how I’d act

To help your child. To advocate for them when they can’t. We allowed our son to try everything himself and when that didn’t work, it was beyond him, we stepped in… many times. Unfortunately, the school and sporting systems we were dealing with didn’t know how to deal with it, so basically did nothing. We ended up moving schools and football clubs which sadly means the bullying continues and those bullies will just move onto someone else.

I suffered from being bullied at high school it was terrible as I was picked on by these girls and we were poor and I had second skirt uniform and the girls had nice uniforms and it made me self conscious and they had bras and I didn’t I was so miserable and this one girl would say things real nasty and the boys would laugh. I had to ignore what was going on and never told my mother as wouldn’t of done any good, so I just had to keep to myself. Then I thought that I was over that till in my adult life and I have had it where they don’t want you on their table so I would go and sit on my own so I stopped going to things because of it and have stayed home, so you would think the women wouldn’t do it when your older but it does.

Thanks for sharing this information. The book sounds like it would be good to have in the house.

Such a hard one. Always listen but try the hardest to stay calm. Or first redaction is to go straight to the teacher and demand action. But talk it out with your child, try and understand the situation. Then approach school, what do they spot. Talk, listen but show your child you will try to help in a calm approachable manner.

Thanks for sharing. Very good information to know as a mom.

It is such a hard situation and difficult to not get emotional about it.

I’m going through this with my 12 year old daughter at the moment. It’s so hard!!

Thanx for sharing. Stay calm, listen comfort and speak out are all important

One of the things i worry about often for when my daughter gets to that age. Thanks for the read.

Bullying is not easy to handle as a parent, because sometimes the kids dont tell the parents or their loved ones about this, it can be handled only if kids share it with their family.

If only it was that simple. Bullying is a hideous crime whether by children or adults and bullies need to be held accountable. Of course we must reassure our children and stay calm however we also have to put a stop to it. We also need to instil into ones child the values and morals that society lives by. It is never okay to be a bully or to be a victim of bullies.

Talk to the school or a parent that their kids are doing it to my kids. I hope I’ll never have to deal with that.

Thank you for sharing. Stay calm is a must in that situation.