Good for her.
If a person has never felt this then they dont understand and shouldnt comment.

When I first found out we were having a boy, I was more upset cause I didn’t know what to do with a boy, but I love my little boy so much and wouldn’t exchange him for even 100 girls and as the the MIL thing, I hope to be a great MIL when my boy gets married cause my hubby’s mum is a evil bi$&h and we have nothing to do with her.

I was so sure it was a girl too but definitely not disappointed about having my son

There is no right or wrong in having a feeling, it’s about how we are dealing with the feeling that is important.
Personally I didn’t have gender disappointment, but my mum had a little when she had a 5th girl

I haven’t experienced it but 100% gender disappointment is real. I feel for mums like this

I think it’s a hard one. If she really wants a girl then maybe she needs to go through all the hoops of ivf – where you can choose the gender. I’m sure she will love the 4th boy no matter what, but I can understand her disappointment.

I was disappointed at the beginning of my pregnancy but the time my son was born i changed my mind and started accepting that we can’t really change that.

I think the people commenting “as long as they’re healthy” etc obviously haven’t experienced the disappointment! It’s not that you don’t love your baby any more or less it’s just a feeling and after they’re born you don’t care at all anymore. I know the feeling very we but I absolutely love and adore them

I can understand that she’d be disappointed, but really, count your blessings. They are all blessings no matter the gender.

As long as they are happy and healthy thats all the matters

It’s understandable. I have 3 sons myself..if I go for a 4th I’m presuming it would be a boy to avoid disappointment. All babies rock!

It’s a baby, gender doesn’t matter. Some people can’t even have one

I have a 6yr old boy and am pregnant with another boy I was absolutely devastated when I found out I was having another boy as this is my last one due to complications I really wanted a girl I had a name picked out n everything but I realised that if it’s meant to be then it will be I wouldn’t change it at all I can’t wait to meet my lil man but I definitely no how u feel it is heartbreaking to have ur heart set on something and to have it shattered but in the end it is wat it is and there’s no point dwelling on something that didn’t go ur way it’s just how it is

For anyone that is gender diverse, articles like this really hurt. You never know if you have a daughter, whether she will identify that way and want girly things, or marriage and children in her future. In the same way, you may find that a son could want to become a dressmaker etc. Putting your expectations and pressures onto kids to just be one of 2 gender ideals, sets both you up for disappointment and the child to feel rejected.

I completely get the gender disappointment. I have two boys and although I love them, I am grieving the loss of a daughter I never had. I grew up with a single mum and a sister, so girls are all I know. My boys love me but I would have loved to have a daughter to share all those milestones with and support and teach and be friends with. I have 4 nieces so that will have to do but I totally get the gender disappointment. Don’t hate on someone because they feel the way they feel.

Such a difficult topic. I don’t think you should be planning more kids in the only hope of getting the gender you want. Have children because you want a child and your family. It is unfair on the child if you were hoping for anything other.

Do hope your child never runs across this post as he would be hurt. But having girls doesn’t necessarily mean you would have been able to carry out your dreams of dress shopping with them or being there if they had a child. My girls are more tom-boys than their brothers.

I didn’t. Having gone through IVF and tried for 4 years, I just wanted a full-term healthy baby. It’s okay to have gender disappointment but does it need to be shared so publicly. This child will scour the internet one day!

Awww, I completely get it. You just vented your emotions and that’s ok. You can not change or feel how feel want or think. It’s fine to feel what you do and talk about it. That shows how brave you are to put your feelings forward. All the best dear!!

I wasn’t concerned about the gender of my children at all. It wasn’t ever an issue as there are positive points to having either gender.