This is a horrible thing for the man to say to his wife. She’s still grieving and the passing of her son is still raw. I’d be starting to wonder if there was a future with this man.

And he is not a Man…..probably has never been and never will be. He badly needs to grow up.

So sad…that poor women- she is a mother with broken heart .

You will always be a mother! ????

Wow, I really feel for you. He sounds like a horrible person who can’t be there for you and support you as you grieve the loss of your son. You are a mother and always will be no matter what

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  • • mom466087 replied
    • 01 Jun 2022 , 8:26 pm

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  I agree. Can’t believe how some can be that bad

What an insensitive jerk your husband is. Does he also think that once your child leaves home you’re no longer a Mother too? Maybe he just doesn’t know what to say. You didn’t go too far, he did.

Well you are still a mother and obviously still grieving. As to your husband, I’m not sure how anyone can be so unfeeling. Did he not like your son? Either way, if he loves you, he should be mindful of your feelings. I would be seriously considering my options in your position.

You are a Mum and will always be a Mum. You are grieving and need love and support, perhaps even to speak to a psychologist to help you work through your pain. Your husband is so insensitive. If he can’t understand your grief or why you would be upset, there is something very wrong with him.

I am truly sorry for you and want you to understand that you are and will always be a mother. There is no time limit on grief and you have to go through what you go through to get to the other side. Each of us is different. However, in regard to your husband, I would put as much distance between you as is possible. He sounds like a completely selfish, self-centred moron. Imagine saying you had got lazy because you are grieving the loss of your son. I wish you well and hope you will find some comfort and peace in the years to come.

Tell him ‘you’re no longer a husband’s and get divorced. He sounds like an unsupportive jerk. Of your spouse isn’t going to support you at the most difficult time of your life, the marriage is not salvageable. You will always be a mother. Her husband has shown his true colours and I hope she leaves him!

How horrible!! If you give birth, you will always be a mum regardless of whether the baby is alive and well, or if life has been unkind and you give birth to an angel.

What a nasty person he is! I would seriously be filling for divorce if I were her. Just because it wasn’t his biological son, doesn’t give him the right to be insensitive about these sorts of things.
I honestly can’t believe someone could be like that.

How hurtful for her. No matter how many years pass, she will always be a mother. Her husband doesn’t sound the best support for her nor understand the grief she is and will forever feel. Surround yourself with ones who want to bring you on, even on your darkest days xx

This is so heartbreaking, I couldn’t imagine what she is going through. I honestly don’t think she should have expected anything from her husband, but in saying that he shouldn’t have said what he said. How hurtful.

If this were my situation I would be telling him to get out, that it’s over and how dare he disrespect the memory of her child. She IS and ALWAYS will be his mother no matter what.

My heart aches for this woman. What is within my power to do is send positivity, and my love and encouragement to this woman who is heartbroken. I know what it feels like to lose a child, and I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It may not feel like it now, but it does get better. Seek out counselling, I have called Beyond Blue and they are amazing when I went through the loss of my own child. My thoughts, prayers and love go out to you Mama.

What a disgusting attitude to have. Her friends and family were trying to lift her up and then the hubby drags her down. I wouldn’t have gone out expecting something from my husband, as my hubby always says that I’m not his mother and now our kids are old enough to understand, he generally helps them buy me gifts that are from them. HOWEVER, this mum is clearly grieving and having a hard time, would it have killed him to do something nice for her to cheer her up? Even buying her some flowers would have been nice. He sounds like a complete jerk.

I just cannot read this, heartbreaking

I read the headline but couldn’t rest the rest of the story. 🙁

Surely this is not a real story? No one could be this insensitive? I don’t understand why the husband would hide in his room, he should get on his knees & beg for forgiveness. That is so cruel. My husband & I would be completely devastated losing a child especially at the age of 7! How can he place his needs ahead of a heart broken mother? Must be a complete dick