Husband Wants Wife To Ditch Family Dogs Because His 'Affair Child' Is Allergic

A long-suffering wife says her husband is demanding she get rid of the family’s beloved French bulldogs because the child he fathered following a one-night-stand is allergic to them.

The furious wife says it’s the last straw, after everything she’s done to forgive her husband’s cheating.

“My husband had a one night stand and after much counselling I decided to forgive him and work on our marriage,” she explained on reddit. “Unfortunately the woman got pregnant, and they now have a three-year-old boy.”

The husband and wife share two children together, a 14-year-old daughter and nine-year-old son, as well as two five-year-old French bulldogs.

“Unfortunately being short hair dogs these kind tend to produce the most reaction in those who are allergic. I was fully prepared to welcome this child into my home with open arms and be the best stepmother I could possibly be, as the child is innocent and he is the little brother of my two children. My husband has visitation every other weekend.

“Unfortunately this child is highly allergic to dogs, and his mother is demanding that we get rid of the dogs. These dogs have been with me through thick and thin, they were there with me when I suffered severe depression over my husband cheating and my kids adore them too.

“I absolutely refuse to get rid of these dogs, I told my husband he can either do the visitation at a hotel, get a second apartment for him and his son, or we can build an in-law unit at his expense above the garage but I told him my only stipulations are that this comes out of his own pocket he may not dip into our kids college funds and the dogs stay.

“Because the child is so young he doesn’t understand why he’s not allowed to come to the house and feels left out as a result. Am I the a**hole for refusing to get rid of my dogs because my husband cheated? When he was hemming and hawing because he wanted to be all things to all people I told him I will divorce him well before I do away with the dogs.”

Yikes! What a tricky situation – what are your thoughts? Let us know in the comments below.

53 Comments

- - meedee said
  - 30 Aug 2024
    10:19 am
100% not. You take on animals for their life and they are part of the family. You do not cast them aside over something like this. You have offered several options and your husband just has to accept one.

- - Lividanke said
  - 29 Aug 2024
    4:11 pm
The dogs wouldn’t be going anywhere if it was up to me!

- - Ellen said
  - 11 Dec 2022
    8:30 am
The mother of the child has no right to demand anything. I think the father needs to find a solution; he was the one who was unfaithful and due to his cheating has a child with another woman

- - mom489365 said
  - 19 Nov 2022
    9:13 pm
Keep the dogs you superstar, you’ve put up with too much as it is.

- - Deepti said
  - 26 Jul 2022
    1:51 pm
Shocking. You are lovely. I would have never forgiven.

- - Mum's R Best said
  - 06 Jul 2022
    1:38 pm
A shocking situation but I would have to say, don’t get get of your precious dogs. Why should U suffer anymore than U should for your husband’s betrayal.

- - ~Loui~ said
  - 30 Jun 2022
    5:14 pm
This is an awful situation, but the dogs are just like family too.

- - mom400215 said
  - 28 Jun 2022
    6:27 pm
A pet is a family member. I feel for the son but you can’t just give the dogs away or you will feel your husbands betrayal even more & you will never forgive him. I think something else needs to be worked out.

- - sharna_booth_weinrowski said
  - 27 Jun 2022
    7:38 am
a pet is a family member!

- - Zmijka86 said
  - 21 Jun 2022
    2:30 pm
This is quite tricky situations but I can’t stand people who are leaving their pets and they are not sustainable for their new life style.

- - mom461384 said
  - 07 Jun 2022
    5:38 pm
Good on you for being so damn supportive given the situation. But you should definitely not be giving up your fur babies!

- - mom101628 said
  - 04 Jun 2022
    9:43 pm
Let him sort something else out. It is not your fault he was unfaithful, so now he should suffer the consequences he has brought upon himself.

- - Ordinary mum said
  - 31 May 2022
    9:31 pm
I’d get rid of the hubby IF there weren’t two other children involved – no I’m not talking about the dogs – I’m talking about the 9 year old and 14 year old. I’d build the in-law unit above the garage and tell him to move into it.

- - linaianna said
  - 31 May 2022
    4:54 pm
I don’t think she needs to get rid of the dogs as far as I’m concerned their her dogs and she is entitled to keep them.

- - mom485263 said
  - 17 May 2022
    9:48 am
She has been reasonable in her solutions to offer alternatives but I can understand her wanting to keep the dogs. They are family also and have helped her though a difficult time.

- - tessie said
  - 16 May 2022
    11:19 am
Well for me it’s a no brainer. I’d keep the dogs and let him work out another arrangement for his love child. The other woman has no right to make demands either. She would have known he was married in the first place. I’m sorry for the little boy but you shouldn’t have to get rid of your dogs for something wrong your husband did.

- - rovermum said
  - 16 May 2022
    10:49 am
Wow! What a mess. Keep the dogs. They will be most loyal to you and love you unconditionally. Your husband needs to sort his crap out. Sorry!

- - romvar said
  - 15 May 2022
    1:07 pm
What an awful situation.! I think the mother should stand her ground and not get rid of her beloved dogs. Surely, they can work something out.

- - Julzie13 said
  - 15 May 2022
    12:03 pm
Definitely keep your doggos, they are a part of your family. It sucks the situation has happened but you shouldn’t have to put up with someone else’s consequences. Whose to say things would work out even if you didn’t have your doggos?

- - tans said
  - 15 May 2022
    9:40 am
Oh please keep you fur baby .. 3 years of forgiveness … maybe hubby can spend every second weekend away from your home with his child in a caravan park why should you and your children be inconvenienced by his selfishness time to stand up lovely you matter and your feelings matter
- Ordinary mum replied
  
  31 May 2022 , 9:26 pm
  That would be a good solution but in her shoes I’d be paranoid that he’d stray again. And in saying that if there is trust issues – and of course there would be then – the whole thing should be moot.