I think the mother in law was well out of line. It doesn’t matter what your opinion of the potential name is – preventing him from seeing his wife and baby over this issue is frankly a bit disgusting. Even if he had done paperwork to name the child, there are ways to deal with that.

The mother in law should not have interfered. Not telling him where his wife and child were is wrong too. It is the decision of the parents to discuss and name their child. I hope the counselling helps but it seems there may be more to it all if the father hasn’t seen his child in weeks.

I think she had no right to interfere in this at all and can’t imagine why she thinks she had the right. This is for them to work out. If they stay together she will have a hard time getting the relationship back on track. He can’t be very committed if he hasn’t seen the baby in weeks.

The Grandmother/MIL should not have interfered. The father should have been told the whereabouts of his baby. He might have been just throwing around names and not going to follow through. I hope he sees his baby very soon and they can all somehow make amends for the baby’s sake. I hope the counselling eventually helps.

MIL is in the wrong. She shouldn’t interfere its the mum and dads decision. Its up to the parents to come up with a mutual decision

I don’t think the MIL should have stopped her SIL from seeing his child at the hospital. She should have just asked him not to sign off on the name until both parents could agree on a name. If he had gone ahead and signed, I believe it can always be changed at a later date. I don’t understand why the husband is sulking and hasn’t seen his child in weeks. Sounds like a lot of work is needed to heal this family.

I don’t think the grandmother should have stepped in, it was none of her business. It is between the couple having the child, she should have just been there for support and not meddled in their business. Sounds like this family has some issues they need to work through. I hope they can.

If possible and if the couple is willing; it really does sound like this family needs to do a huge amount of work on healing. Being a parent and the birth of a child is surely a time for joy and not for tension, negative behaviour and unkind acts; it should indeed be a beautiful time.

I think the grand mother did the wrong thing too. This is really something for the couple to sort out between the two of them, and the grand mother should not put her nose in between and in any way interfere. I have no words for her decision not the share the hospital where his wife gives birth to their son so he can’t go there !

Interfering in a marriage and the birth of a child as described in the article is never ever going to end well. Births need to be registered and until they are registered a name is not legal anyway. Withholding information from a parent and not facilitating them being together at such an important time is crossing a boundary. Marriage counselling and family counselling is probably a very good idea for this family.

I think you were wrong, Grandma. You are adding to their problems, not solving them. There is no reason to name the baby immediately after birth, so this could have all been sorted out amicably over time. I do hope they can get together and sort out their differences soon – there must have been love between them in the first place, so you shouldn’t become between them in this trying hormonal period of time.

What was done was wrong. If they weren’t both happy with the name the child was going to be given, it should have been sorted out with the counsellor during marriage counselling. After denying the father a right to see his newborn as soon as he could, the baby doesn’t have a ‘ridiculous’ name but doesn’t have a father now, either.

You absolutely went too far! It’s got zero to do with you and they would sort it out themselves. You were a nasty interfering woman and he is being a petulant child refusing to see his own baby! I hope you are banned from seeing the baby until you apologise. You will never be able to make this right

Definitely should not have hid his own child from him and not allowed him to even know where she was at. That was wrong on her part. They could have easily managed this better – even just agreeing to hold off on the name until the mother was well enough to agree

Oh boy, this is a big yikes all round. It sounds like the husband was trying to do a pretty crumby thing by naming the baby when the wife was recovering from birth. But it’s also a bit extreme to completely Barr him from seeing his baby. It seems like a lot more therapy is needed here