I can see both sides of this case. I do worry if the Father doesn’t see his child that he may lose interest altogether. Then when the child grows up they will have to go looking for them and ask him questions as to why he abandoned them. Sad either way.

This is hard. I can understand where the mum is coming from. She is wanting to get the father’s attention and I believe she doesn’t really intend to withhold visitation or stop her daughter having a relationship with him. I think she is using his love for his daughter to try to make him wake up and pay what he is responsible for. That being said, we don’t know the full particulars of how much he earns and how much she earns. She’s already admitted that they are getting by comfortably, so perhaps it is a bit mean spirited if he actually is on a low income. Things to consider.
It definitely isn’t right for her to indefinitely block him from contact.

It’s a very selfish way to look at things prioritising money that you say you have enough of over your daughter growing up being alienated from her farther over money. Yes it’s not great that he owes you that money but be the bigger person and start a family court mediation session and progress if needed. We have full custody of my step
Kids and have for the last 7 years and my husband has never received a cent from his ex even after family court but he still lets her see them when she asks (she lives interstate and we have driven them 4 hours to see her with no ask for money) because in the thick of it all
She is still there mother. He is owed upwards of $30,000 and we just barely get buy but there is no point arguing it and making the kids feel stuck in the middle. So we don’t bring it up anymore.

I’m with the mother on this situation. If he’s not paying anything and only speaks to hi daughter via iPad and only has a visit for the day I can’t see the problem. Why should he enjoy the benefit of seeing his child when he doesn’t care enough to pay for her? If this mother was in financial stress and he didn’t pay I think most people would be on her side. Depending on how old the child is, next time she sees him she could ask him why he won’t pay for her upbringing! My daughter is going through much the same but is financially struggling and I don’t see why his father who has only rung him 3 times in 4yrs should have the benefit of talking to my grandson when he’s not paid one cent in 7yrs and has been very inconsistent. So this mother is doing the right thing. Whoever called her an a..hole has no idea of how hard it is. They think they’re getting back at their exes by not paying but they’re denying their child!!

You are only hurting your daughter. Go and get a court order to make him pay. Dont use your child as a bargaining chip as she will grow up hating both of you. Divorce is terribly traumatic for everyone involved. Perhaps talking to your ex might solve this problem as he might be having financial problems and is embarassed to tell you because he wants to be seen as a winner and not a financial loser.

Your not hurting your ex but your hurting your child from seeing their dad

You make decent money and it doesn’t sound like you need the child support. Is the greed really worth your kid hating you later because you alienated her from her father, using her as a weapon for money?
Stop being a bitch.

definitely punish the daughter make her feel really bad and get a complex on why her dad won’t visit her because now she will not understand but when she gets older and has the sense to work out the truth she will pay you back with a vengeance and give you exactly what you deserve. And to think mad cow disease has been cured but there seems to still be few cases lurking

That’s definitely such a harsh situation to be in and making a decision like that can undo all the co-parenting that has happened up until this point. How does your child feel about it? It’s still her dad at the end of the day and it shouldn’t be based on his ability to pay

I think she maybe needs to start by talking to her ex about it. Ask him why he’s so behind. Ask him why he expects to have access without contributing to supporting his daughter financially. I mean… there could be a reason. Is he trying to catch up? Is he paying anything now?