Only you know the answer. Don’t worry what other people think.

I thknk you should do what feels right for you and your partner, regardless of your age. If you’re physically and mentally able to have another child and you have an amazing partner by your side, that is willing to support you throughout the whole pregnancy and after…. Do it!

I had my youngest when I was 40 and while I regret my age (we had been trying to get pregnant for a couple of years but weren’t successful) I wouldn’t change it for anything. Being older and not as active it is harder to keep up for me. Because the first two are close together and there is a 6 year age gap between the middle child it feels like I’ll be making school lunches forever. I’ll be 59/60 (I’m too tired to do the maths) by that time. At 8’oclock I’m either still trying to tidy the kitchen or wanting to flop onto the sofa, instead I’m getting my 8 year old ready for bed. But again I wouldn’t change it. Consider if you and your partner do break up, can you do it by yourself? If it were me, I wouldn’t do it. if you’re fit, healthy, energetic, financially and emotionally stable and loving and caring, knowing there is no au pair or nanny to palm your child off to (like a lot of older celebrities can and do), talk to your children too, will they be supportive – remembering this is your child not theirs and you will be the main care giver.

In this day and age, it seems that there is no age limit on having a child. I would suggest that if the pregnancy happens normally then there is absolutely no reason not to go ahead and have a baby if that is what you want. The one thing I would not do is go through IVF as it takes a tremendous toll on both the couple and their relationship, not to speak of the cost.

I was like 36 when I had my second child and to be told by nurses and midwifes aren’t you a little too old now to have a child was just so wrong of them to say that. Look if you are well enough to have a child do it

Being a older mum isn’t wrong, and you’re not too old. Most people don’t know how long they’ll live for. Alot of older mums are way fitter and active than mums that are alot younger. Do you want another child? do you have time to raise a child? will you spend time teaching your child things? Are the questions you should be asking yourself

You’re not too old. I had my youngest at 43 years old and the prenatal tests etc suggested she was a lower risk pregnancy than my earlier two. She is beautiful and healthy and bright. I do not regret it at all. Granted the pregnancy was a bit harder on me than the other two.

I’d say it’s fine but talk to your gp to make sure

So long as she has a clean bill of health, I don’t think it would be wrong at all. There are 2 parents and her partner is 7 years younger also. Realistically she is still old enough to raise the child to adulthood and that’s the main thing. I think she should go for it if it feels right.

My daughter was 42 when she had our lovely grandson and her youngest was 20 and she’s been doing it by herself with help from me since she found out she was pregnant. The father didn’t want to know. She was healthy and fit. But you have to be mindful of preeclampsia as you get older. Plus, she’s finding it tougher physically even though she’s healthy. She gets tired easily. He’s now 6 and gorgeous but a handful. So if your relationship is solid because it’s hard by yourself even with help, I say do what you feel. Age is just a number.

As you seem emotionally up for this, I would say ‘Go for it’ but check with your GP first. Your eggs are old and the chance of a physical/genetic defect is increased. It would be better to know what/ if there are more risks at your age

Being 44 is not to old, it depends on how your health is and if you will have any help. Mu youngest children were a surprise at 51 and yes it was hard but I had older children who were willing to help me with them. I gave birth to twins. I have been mistaken for their grandparent and do get some stares from others when they find out I am the mother. My daughter older then them was born on my 41st birthday. My other three living children I had in my early 20’s so yes an age difference there. Talk it over with your partner and other children and think it over.

I’m 44 myself and I feel old already and doesn’t want kids anymore (I have 3) but I still have the energy I believe but my patience is slowly depleting. But that’s just me cause all my friends have kids the same age as mine and I feel like if I have a new one, is gonna be a totally different world and time, and I hate my child to miss out on what I’ve given my older kids when I’m younger. But your case is different, as you have a new partner—there’ll be that longing to share parenthood journey with him, especially that he hasn’t had one. If I were you- I wouldn’t want him to miss out on that. Being a parent is hard yet it’s the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced in my life so far, so I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

I don’t think you are too old!

Definitely not too old.
I used to work for a Lady who had her 1st bubs at 40yo and the 2nd at 45yo.
I also know a Lady who had her 1st baby at 53yo.

I think only you can answer this question. If you want too, have been told that your healthy, then there’s your answer. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks as they’re not going to be there to help you over the next 18 years.

No way!!! Nothing better than having another mini at any age. I just had my 5th at 38 and I’m so glad I didn’t miss out on that. I honestly feel like I could go again if hubby didn’t get the snip already. But 5 is enough I think lol

I don’t think age matters if you are healthy and the child will be loved and have family around to support and help them grow. Lots of women are having kids later in life. My friend is 45 and trying for another child as we speak. If you can do it and you want to, then why not!

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  • • mom93821 replied
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  I agree; putting a restriction and an age on this is not needed. Everyone has different thoughts and ideas about age and ultimately it is how the person feels. If a person feels fit and healthy and ready to take on the journey of parenthood then it is their decision to embrace.

Of course it wouldn’t be wrong.
When you’re still healthy and fit I don’t see a problem.
And 7 years of age difference with your partner is not that much really.
I had my first at 40 years of age. And sister in law was for the first time pregnant with twins at age 47 (and all went well) !

It is a big decision to be made and getting some support and advice might be a good idea. If there are concerns about age and health; discuss with a GP for the best advice and resources. If there are concerns about the relationship; again seek some supports and communicate and discuss at length. Ultimately; it is a choice that can only be made by the person considering having a baby.