I agree with letting them know before the trip. That was going to be my suggestion also

If you are not close to them, do you need to tell them? I know how excited you are, but I personally would be keeping my news to myself until after the social weekend away. Just my opinion.

Just let them know. I would love another baby but its just not on the cards. But I would be sooo excited to hear of someone else pregnant!

I think it’s very understanding of you to want to give them the news privately. It gives them the chance to process before the trip. I can tell from your thoughts that you’re a very caring person. Congratulations to you both.

I’ve been in this situation. I think it shows how much of a beautiful soul you are to not just see it as “I get to be happy and they deal with their own emotions however” kind of deal. It shows how you are being sensitive to their struggles of conceiving a child.
I remember this with my 1st and remember telling a really good friend the news over msn. I was excited and scared but also wanted to be sensitive to her thoughts & feelings too.
Even when DD#2 came along, I was still respectful of her emotions and understood if she needed time away or not follow the feed.
Good on you mumma ! <3

Just be honest. Telling them prior is a sensitive way to break the news.

I would tell them.I know it will hard for them.But they will make it one day.

Great idea telling them before. The couple having problems will still be happy about the good news

I would tell them how re ver I felt most comfortable doing so my news is my news and their reaction to it is their own responsibility. Just because someone has had issues with getting pregnant doesn’t mean someone who is pregnant can’t be happy about their own news.

Telling her in person before the the girls weekend sounds like the best option. I think she would prefer you to be honest.

If they’re truly your friends they will be happy for you no matter what, even if it’s hard.

It would be so hard. I fell pregnant not long after my sister miscarried. I was 4 months pregnant before I told people I was pregnant, I was in denial to myself too. So I know how she’s feeling

This happened to me with my first as my friend had been trying for years. I finally told her on her own, she said she was happy for me but when my son was born she didnt come near me like she used to

I struggled for many years with fertility. I just accepted that others have an easy time and I didn’t. Personally I didn’t tell anyone outside of immediate family. When you develop a bump they will figure it out. Funny thing though, I didn’t show until 5 1/2 months and had a preterm birth but about 4 weeks so for some I had like the worlds shortest pregnancy…LOL.

Quietly, separately and honestly. You must tell her. You must do it privately, not in front of others. And you must understand that she will be upset but happy for you – a lot of mixed emotions.

As the person struggling with fertility issues and a mum of angels, I would appreciate being told before hand so I could have time to process it, have my cry and accept it. It’s nothing personal, I wouldn’t be mad that they were pregnant but I would be sad for me not being pregnant. It’s hard being on both sides.

I went through a similar situation as my sister has 6 angel babies and is going through infertility. I told her at 12 weeks. She was initially angry, hurt, confused, overwhelmed, bitter and that’s OK. We are very close so she was honest.

Be open and honest and gentle. It’s hard, I’ve been on both sides of this fence but don’t hide your excitement because you don’t want want hurt others

Best still to be open, but share your news in a considerate way

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  • • Ellen replied
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  Thinking of all those who struggle with infertility !

Very tough situation as I totally understand