A heartbroken 37-year-old woman has just discovered that her husband has changed his mind about having children, after 14 years together. Now she’s asking what she should do.
After being married to her husband, who is 39, for eight years, the woman says he only recently brought up his change of heart in a conversation, and it’s left her blindsided.
“I’ve always known I wanted to have children,” the woman explained.
“We started talking about getting married and having children when we were with each other for a month and my husband was first to bring the subject up. If he said he didn’t want to have children, I would have broken up with him because I knew that not having children would make me unhappy, and I’ve been madly in love with my husband since the night I met him.
“I couldn’t stay with someone who didn’t want to have children no matter how much I loved them.”
The heartbroken woman says her husband initially wanted to start trying for children straight after their wedding, but he kept pushing out the timeline.
“A year before we got married, my husband said we would start trying to conceive after our honeymoon. After we had been on our honeymoon, he said he wasn’t ready to have children yet, so he said, ‘We’ll wait till next year’. And I was ok with that, and we continued to talk about future children. A year after that when I asked him if we could start trying, he said the same thing, and he has been saying that every year.
“Today we had one of our friends at our house, and my friend my husband and I had a chat, and one of the things my husband said to her was that he doesn’t know if he wants to have children. But he said he might want to start a family in three years.
“If we wait another three years I will be 40, and I’ve heard that you have less chance of getting pregnant after 40. Even if I do start trying at the time and I do get pregnant, there is a big chance that we will only have one child and I want to have three children, two would be enough but to me, only having one child is just as sad as not having any children at all.
“I have been crying on and off all day, so I probably won’t be able to sleep tonight. I feel that I’ll be upset forever unless I do get pregnant, so I feel we will need to either start trying now or I’ll need to break up with him now. What would be the best thing to do?”
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