For me its a No. I really dont like to have parties for myself anyway and I hate putting people in a position where they feel they have to buy me a gift so there is no way i would invite people and ask them to pay.

No not a fan of charging people. If you can’t afford the party then maybe look at another celebration option that is more cost effective for you.

I don’t really like the idea, but I suppose if she were having the event at a restaurant or something people often expect guests to chip in for food and drink for something like that. It depends a bit how it’s phrased- could come across as tacky if you weren’t careful.

I would have zero problems being asked to pay for an activity like paintball. That’s not a party that’s just celebrating a birthday found simeyjng fun with friends.

Perhaps you could provide some food and drink after the Hot Air Balloon ride. In the invitation perhaps put something like. We would like to save you the hassel of trying to selct a present so instead of presents it would be great if you coulf make a small con tribution to the Hot air balloon ride that I am planning”

If it’s an activity of some kind, you could suggest making a donation toward the cost in lieu of presents …..

I’ve been to a party where someone has organised a wine tasting bus and lunch and paid for it, i was shocked at their generosity and would have liked to have contributed. I’ve also been to parties where you know up front you are paying for an event and that doesn’t matter as long as it isn’t too expensive.

If it’s money instead of a gift then I think that’s okay.

I haven’t planned such an event but I’ve been invited to an activity party at a cost. I’m wondering if the poster intends to provide food and drinks after the event or if everyone just goes home. Not really my idea of a party.

I think it’s ok for an activity if you do like a group messenger and let people know in advance. I would happily pay for an activity for a friends party. Depends on your friends financial position as well though.

Definitely a no imagine the headache of collecting money its like asking guests to pay for wedding

When I would consider about asking money for a party I think I would ask those I plan to invite in advance if this is something they’re open for.

Well, as many have said, there’s no real right or wrong here. Depends on the situation.

I guess it all depends on your friends and how you word it.
My husband is having a milestone birthday and wants to go for a hot air balloon ride. They are very expensive. I want to have a celebration for him. When I invite guests I will say please no presents (but as people ALWAYS give one I will add) he would love to go on a hot air balloon ride so if you feel the need to give something, make a small contribution towards that!
I guess it’s different as it’s not going to be for the guests nor is it going to be an upfront out of pocket expense for us. But maybe the poster can pay for the event and say no presents please however, if you want to give something I will have a jar for money (or similar) where you can recoup some of the expenses of the activity. Depending on your friends and the milestone some might gift $100 each

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  That’s a good way to do it Forgetful Mumma

I think its fine if you’re upfront about the activity and cost so people can make their own decision on attending. As long as its not to cover food and drink!

Oh wow, that is a bit rude.

I believe that it is up to the host to pay. If the party/activity is an unaffordable cost for the host, it probably would be for others too. Stick to something within a sensible budget so everyone can enjoy it.

No way. I think the only way you should be paying is if you are going out to dinner at a restaurant. Then you just pay your own meal and deinks

I don’t think I could do it as some people might be excluded due to cost.

I would not not do that. Some people may take it normally but majority will not be okay with it. So its better to go for party plan that is affordable for the host so that they dont need to ask people to pay for participating.