It’s very easy as parents to think that we’re the ones who have the greatest effect on our children and that every thing they do reflects on us and to quite a vast extent other people will look at you with those ‘tut-tut’ eyes and a judgemental/condescending turn of the mouth…but we’re not always the ones to blame for their shameful behaviour. Honestly, sometimes it’s other parents complete failings as parents that rub off on the kids …yes…we all have them… Those parts of our personalities that make us less than a saint, and they are as contagious as any virus in daycares and schools
My 2 yr old and I were shopping. I was carrying her around the shop and when we got to the checkout she was asked to return an item she’d picked up. She turned to me, slapped me in the face and screamed “NAUGHTY F*@&” at me and spat. (it was also later used in conversation with the grandparents as well *slaps forehead*) Well, that’s not a phrase I have or would ever use, nor is it one that our small family would ever use, so it did not come from us. It came from daycare. It was SO embarrassing that I was stunned to silence. The checkout attendant gave me one of ‘those’ looks. Shameful. Not only was it affronting personally, it was embarrassing and also so very sad to think that a child under 5 gets called that regularly enough to pass it to other kids at daycare.
I’m completely aware that I am quite possiby to blame for all the kids at daycare holding two bits of fruit up to their eyes and poking out their tongues (sorry) and quite possibly they have learned to put their head on the wall and say “I can’t do this anymore” (sorry) and they might even say at the top of their voices “For goos sakes, leave it alone!!” (sorry) We are all responsible for the state of our community’s growth. No-one with children is exempt from that responsibility. An no-one is entirely at fault. Parenting forums like MOM are so important for us to contirbute to, to gain a social “norm”. I really don’t want to throw judgement out to other parents who I know are doing their best, but please, can whoever it is please stop calling their kid “naughty f$@&” so that mine doesn’t use it to abuse me and I promise that I’ll try really hard not to bang my head on the wall and do googly eyes with oranges.
Posted by kanook, 27th March 2013