Every week my husband and I have the same conversation, wondering whether or not we should have a second child. Our son is 5 but age gap is not an issue for us. The main issue is all the hard times I went through during my pregnancy — skin issues, vomitting and nausea during all 9 months from day 1 etc — and now that our son was diagnosed with autism we think maybe we should focus all our attention and efforts on him and give him the best support that we can. We fear that if our next child has more issues we won’t be able to cope, psychologically.
We think we should put our son first. He needs us 100% for now at least. So we’ll be fair and help him be the best he can be. If things get better but if by then it’s too late to have another baby, we have other options, perhaps adoption or fostering. Or even ‘borrowing’ a young relative who would like to move from overseas to be raised by us for a better education or a better life altogether (I have friends who do this for their nieces and nephews).
If it’s love that we are dying to give to a second child, then I’m hoping that these options should suffice. But, if them being blood is important then that’s a whole different story and it would definitely break my heart if by the time we decide it’s too late.
Posted by sillymummy, 25th February 2013