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Before I start, I will say that I know I need to go to the doctor, but there are no female doctors and I am so embarrassed about this.
But after 5 pregnancies including twins, my “bits” are not what they used to be.
Haemorrhoids have appeared in the last pregnancy and I just don’t know what to do about them! Nothing is working to get rid of them.. I’m beginning to think that surgery is my only option.
And I think I have what I can only assume is a prolapsed vaginal wall. But I’m too ashamed to go to my doctor.
I’ve lost weight and its made me more aware of my body… I don’t want my boyfriend to look down there ever! Without these issues fixed, it’s definitely safe to say there wont be any more babies, because my intimate life has disappeared!
Why can’t it be as easy to go to the doctor’s anonymously, as it is to post this on here?!


Posted anonymously, 29th June 2015


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  • You just need to find a lovely lady Dr, they’re so much easier to talk about female issues. It’s still hard, but they know what they’re doing

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  • Never be ashamed of your body, a Dr is there to give you advice and assist you with anything that you may be concerned about. take the first step and look after yourself x

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  • oh sweetie! i hear ya! i hate it! my doc has a nurse stand by (as a witness i guess) for anything regarding “the bits” lol. It is soooo incredibly weird to have the doc down there looking at your brekkie while the other nurse is talking to you about the weather lol and watching over it all. But it does go to show how common it is for them that it doesn’t phase them at all so you shouldn’t feel embarrassed. It is hard when you are in the moment but you will be better off for it. I think that you could get your support person to tag along so they will help keep you semi-occupied while you wait and it helps you to not be alone in your head, stressing about the verdict! Maybe you are more afraid of the outcome than the procedure. If it is a prolapse, they can fix it. If it is not too bad (app there are levels of this) then simple kegels can correct this. My friend has been through this and she had no idea what was happening down there and wouldn’t tell her hubby! She was so relieved when it was sorted out and it wasn’t a big ordeal either. They told her that treatment was optional as it wouldn’t affect her besides having painful sex. I think that tomorrow, just make the appointment and get it sorted out. Go see your doc and if you can’t bear a male doctor, then ask him to give you a referral for a female. You might be required to travel. You don’t even really have to tell him why except for you would like to see a woman as it is personal.

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  • I agree with looking further for a female dr

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  • There should be clinics that do have female doctors. I would suggest researching in your local area and maybe further afield.

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  • I work in the health industry and trust me when I say there is nothing to be embarrassed about. I know you feel embarrassed but we have seen MUCH worse! It is just another day at work for us

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  • I really think you need to make the effort to find a female doctor, even if it involves travel.

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  • Next time you go in for your pap smear ask the doctor for advise, you are already there for a pretty personal reason so you wouldnt need to be anymore embarresed about getting these issues looked and and be given a couple of reffereal to get your issues fixed.

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  • I know it’s daunting but keep in mind that doctors see this stuff and much worse daily, they won’t be judging you. Good luck!

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  • Bite the bullet and go to the Dr… there is no point in suffering…. time to get it fixed and look after you. Your body has done an amazing job to bring those little lives into the world… celebrate it!

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  • I have no advice.. Just a great big HUG!

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