I am a very busy mum at the moment. I have two children under three and my youngest doesn’t sleep very well. For the past six months I feel like I have been juggling all the household chores and sleepless nights and busy children alone whilst my husband spends most of his free time at home on his computer. I understand he works full time and has a busy job but I feel that he works this eight hours and the rest of his day is ‘me time’ whilst I am busy 24/7. This leads to quite a lots of disharmony in the household and I always feel resentful toward him. Although I keep pointing out some of the many things he could be helping me with it just seems to end in us arguing.
This past two weeks my husband has been overseas and I feel like I have really noticed how little he does at home. Absolutely nothing is different in his absence, my days are exactly the same only I feel much more happy and the house seems much more tidy. I have even had some pretty terrible nights this past week with my children being sick but I feel I have coped much better without him around.
I feels like the stress has left the house. Usually when I’m feel overwhelmed I look to him for support and when I don’t get it I get angry and irritable. When he’s not here however, I just seem to get on with it and I cope much better.
It has left me wondering, should I bet getting a divorce and be a single mum or should I just pretend he’s not here when he actually is as my day would be happier.
I’m sure I’m not the only person who feels this way but this is not the happy life I imagined when I got married. I hope it gets better as the children get older.
Posted anonymously, 18th October 2014