Is it just me or when you have children your friends disappear or just see you once in a blue moon. Years ago even before I had children the friends list seemed to have dwindled down. Now I have children it’s gone down to just the one true friend and I rarely see them. I know we all grow up and move on but I was hoping I’d still have friends and a social life outside of Facebook and Instagram. I mean I don’t want to go our partying or clubbing those days a long behind me and I only ever did that twice it wasn’t my seen. I find it hard to make friends as I find it hard to hold a conversation as I have a hard time finding the right words to say because of my disability. Maybe one day soon I’ll find some friends who like me for me and once again I can have a social outing.

Posted anonymously, 10th June 2016

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  • I can relate to this. Is it because ourlives and priorities change


  • This kinda happened with my friends… And then a few years later we all emerged from the baby haze and began reconnecting.


  • I read somewhere that you cycle through your friends every 6-7 years because you are at different stages in your life. FB is great to keep in touch with older or distant friends if you aren’t so close anymore. Maybe organise some playdates for your children and establish a connection (if not already) with their mums. I’ve found that most of my older friends I don’t talk to as regularly as the mums of my children’s friends. Plus you have your children in common and I’m sure we can all talk about our kids til the cows come home! Good luck!


  • I have a lot of difficulties making new friends too. Not only for the fact of being a mother, but maybe because my past experiences made me more selective with people. And maybe my expectations are now too high.

    • Nothing wrong with having high expectations – you will find the friends that suit you and that you can trust. :)


  • Friendships may change over time, sometimes new ones come and old ones go and some do remain the same. Finding friends is easier when you have similar interests, maybe take on an activity or hobby and make some friends this way?


  • I think everyone gets busy with there own lives. I still chat online with my besties though and catch up everyone and then


  • I might be just like you but i have managed to keep two friends who i almost never see and a couple of old work mates i catch up with every four months or so… But then i joined a mothers group and they are now years later my best group of friends.. Sadly i am closer to them than my life long friends… But they are now my sanity and help me get through my hard times. offer support when i need it, even drop off meals if i have been really sick as i do for them. If your kids arnt at school yet i would suggest you seek out a playgroup or mothers group just to get out of the house and reconnect with other mums.. If they are at school i would suggest you connect with a local catch up group.. ( this is about making friends not meeting partners, my cousin does this and she now has at least 20 people she catches up with kids included for meals at least once a month and for the ones she likes they catch up every week) Do not let a disability hold you back, most people find it hard to hold a conversation with people who they barley know… I do even with people i know i get tongue tired…

    • I’m currently looking into playgroups and one mothers group in the area we are moving to. Thanks for the advice ????


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