My husband works away and returns only every couple of months. I know he is doing this so I can stay at home and so our family can have a bright future, but I would be lying if i said that on more than a few occasions I resent his lifestyle.
My main issue with this whole situation is when he calls on the weekend or at night when he has finished work he says things like “Im just going to have a shower before golf, Ill give you a call later”
Ok you say?? Yes its understandable that he has a life during the months he is away but does he know how it strikes me straight in the heart that I very very rarely get a peaceful shower, with out a little “mum, mum’ mum in the background? Does he know my days are filled with trips to the park, nappy changes, cleaning, cooking, calming fights, Doctors appointments etc etc etc?
How i would love a day when i could get up as I please then maybe do some shopping (not groceries) or get my hair done or just read a book in peace!
It is starting to make me resent him as more than once we have had the conversation that his family would rather have less money and have him home. I would be more than happy to go back to work to help our family survive, but for some reason it seems like an absurd idea to him.
He doesnt see the tears in his daughters eyes when daddy isnt there to share her birthday. He doesnt see the hunched shoulders his son has when all the other fathers are at a preschool dads day.
I cant make him be a present father to his kids, neither can i make him miss me enough to want to be home.
I want a life back again. I want to be able to spend the occasional time on my own. I want to have a social life again, I want him to share in his children’s achievements, not just on the phone, but hug and kiss than and whisper to them how proud he is.
I love my husband dearly I just miss what we had and what he is missing out on.
Posted by cairnsbliss, 17th June 2013