"Lesson Learnt about values and other people's expectations"

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Having the house tidy and the biscuit tins well stocked was my way of keeping sane. I would try to involve the children but the mess was over the top so I stood back from the scene and then and there I stopped, Why was I so concerned about what other people thought? Why was I so keen to impress visitors with a tidy home and food?
I realised that there was more to life then being constantly prepared, and missing out on quality ‘Kid’ time and being present to them instead.
Oddly enough the steady stream of visitors who normally arrived at morning tea …slowed, and I realised that they really weren’t friends but a drop in group who did nothing for my morale.
Then our home was a home and a real friend will usually bring a bun-loaf to share, our children now more at ease and life is more a breeze.

Posted anonymously, 16th December 2014

6 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 14 Sep 2015
    1:31 pm
Great way to think about house cleaning. We all need to just take a step back and look, really look, to see what’s really important

- - mom94125 said
  - 01 Jan 2015
    7:14 pm
yeah you do have a good idea. i need to relax on this as well

- - Sylverflame said
  - 20 Dec 2014
    9:33 am
I generally cringe when people drop little “sayings (or whatever the term is lol)”, but I have made the exception for this one “the people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind”. Enjoy your time with your children They are heaps more fun than housework!
- mom57522 replied
  
  12 Jan 2015 , 6:51 pm
  That is a very appropriate saying. I like it a lot.
- - BellaB said
  - 18 Dec 2014
    9:30 pm
Yeah, I long ago decided that if the house was clean (ie hygenic), then tidy didn’t matter so much.
- mom93821 replied
  
  06 Jan 2015 , 9:47 am
  I agree; clean and happy; but not overboard!