I first started labouring my son at 21 weeks. I knew it wasnt how pregnancy was meant to happen. We named our baby boy and started planning his funeral. I awoke the next morning and everything had stopped. I was in hospital for two weeks and advised by my gyno to terminate my pregnancy because my baby wouldnt make it to term or he would have mental disorders. I didnt care. After I went home and everything was going smoothly. Then at 27 weeks and 3 days I started bleeding heavily. The next few days were a blur alone in a hospital 4 hoursfrom home away from my children. Alexander was born healthy at 28 weeks, against all odds he was alive and screaming. Id go in everyday and express milk for him. He was 4 days old before I had my first cuddle. Everyday was the same. Express milk go and ear express more milk. The 9 weeks I was away I seen my other children twice for 3 days. It wasnt fair. I ffelt like a jersey cow. I was so emotional all the time and I wished it was easier then it was.

Posted anonymously, 28th October 2014

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  • Such a hard time for a new mum. I was hoping you would give tips to other nicu mums on how to cope as I’ve got a friend who’s just given birth at 29 weeks


  • It must have been very hard on all the family. Hoping everything is going smoothly for you now.


  • I am so glad you had a positive outcome. I myself am a parent of a NICU child. Sadly my daughter only lived to 8.5 weeks old. I know how hard it is to be at the hospital every day and not knwoing what will happen.


  • Such a hard road for all, I hope that you are well in truly out the other side. You suffered a trauma so you might be grieving for what you lost. Be kind to yourself


  • im so glad you stuck to your guns and kept your baby i think some doctors need to listen to us mums a bit more.
    I hope everything is going ok now and your getting to see your other children more.


  • Such a tough time , one of my twins was in for a little while , having one baby with you and one that felt like he didn’t really belong to you because I could do to much other than express ( be the cow) was frustrating,I am sure your family understand


  • Couldn’t imagine being in your shoes, but as tough as it would be, im sure your other children will understand. Stay strong & best wishes for a speedy return home :)


  • My son was in the NICU for a few weeks. It’s so hard, but so wonderful when they come home.


  • You poor love


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